Can some guy tell me what it means when my Fiance gets drunk after reading an e mail from me? To explain it a bit,he's in WA I'm in Germany.We got engaged last Sep when I was in WA to visit him for a month,then we found out his (ex) wife never finalized the divorce and we can't put our visa papers in.She avoids being served with the papers and he thinks about giving up on our future because there's no telling how long divorce and visa will take and there for when we can finally be together.So he quit talking to me (for the 3rd time in 2 years) and tries to fight his feelings.I sat down and sent that mail telling him how much I love him,and reminding him of things that happened in the two years of our relationship.He raed the e mail and according to a friend got up and poured the first drink.And my man hardly EVER drinks.Is that a sign that it got to him and that he can no longer fight his feelings??? I KNOW he loves me,don't doubt that but he's fighting it(again).
2007-05-16 04:46:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His "wife" filed for divorce in VA last year in May but never got it finalized because she didn't have the cash so she says.So we filed for divorce in Oct in WA.They have been seperated since Dec 2001 and havent even see each other since.
2007-05-16 04:48:24 · update #1
If he follows up with the divorce, and regardless of whether she has been served or not, a default entry will be made. He has to post an ad in the paper announcing the divorce proceedings, it must run for 90 days. Once this is completed, she will either respond or not. If she doesn't there will be a default entered, if she does then it can be done--either way it can be finished. He is procrastinating, tell him how this is, get him moving on it, and if he doesn't--then you need to move on because it isn't only her that hasn't let go.
2007-05-16 05:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like hes coming undone and cant handle the current situation anymore. Things arent going exactly as he has hoped and is turning to drinking as a way to deal with this. He definitely needs to be rid of his wife and needs to do whatever it takes to get rid of her andbe with you. Just as long as he continues talking to you thenyou two arent in trouble yet. If she wont accept the divorce papers then he needs to file for divorce as a missing spouse or even a one signature case btu he will get one either way. Good luck
2007-05-16 05:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get advice from a divorce attorney. Other wise it appears he likes to play into being dramatic. Real men think with a clear head, not with clouds of alcohol in there brain. Sounds like a story he is telling you in order to avoid marrying you.
2007-05-16 05:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know you don't want to hear this, but I think you need to step back from this and wait a little. It sounds to me like you might be setting yourself up for heartbreak....and a lot of drama in your life. If he can't handle things, and bails on you now, what's he gonna do if you're married, and hard times come? This is a red flag waving to me, and if you can't see it, then I'm sorry, I feel obligated to point it out. When we ignore red flags, we make problems in our own lives. Good luck on everything.
2007-05-16 04:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk with him clearly and fine the relationship with him ,either he will be with you and now immediately for ever either no
no man will leave his woman (you)with no mail or connection for long time just like this
to be drunk is sthg so childish and irresponsible behavior
2007-05-16 04:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by dodi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He misses you and is tired of the situation the two of you find yourselves in. I don't think he is trying to "fight" his feelings for you, I think he is trying to let you go so you don't have to deal with the situation any more.
2007-05-16 04:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by Susan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion he is stressed and trying to make the best decision for everyone involved. It doesn't look good for you, because although he cares for you he isn't going expect you or himself to wait for years to be together.
By stopping communication he is trying to set you free and you emailing him is just a step backward for you both, it's time to move on.
2007-05-16 04:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hook him up before it is too late.
2007-05-16 05:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't try to break up that relationship,relax and let him decide how to move on with his life.
2007-05-16 05:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by sarah1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋