do you care if your woman or your man has slept with other people before you? like for example, your man had slept with 8 women before you, and you are number 9th.
2007-05-16 04:13:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That really depends on how many people they had been with.
When I was dating I'd always ask.
I see it as how the other person values their own body. I grew up with Christian values, and just always had the whole 'your body is your temple' sort of thoughts. Also, I had always wanted to wait until I was married before having sex. That didn't happen, but I most definitely didn't sleep around. Sex is something to ME that is special, and that symbolizes the feelings between two people.
I wanted to make sure that the man I was with had similar feelings to mine....also a way to I guess safe-guard myself to ensure I wasn't going to get hurt, or be just another number.
I'm not saying that men who sleep around can't ever calm down...that just makes sex seem so unimportant...and I think it IS important.
I'm happily married, and he has been with other people....you just have to make a decision for yourself what YOU think is right and wrong. Also, if you being his 9th bothers you, then maybe you shouldn't be with him. Don't be with someone if it makes you uncomfortable.
It's really dangerous for the people who are just sleeping around....so definitely make sure whomever has been tested.
2007-05-16 04:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how old you are. If you are in your 40s and are only number 9, it's not a bad thing. I'd rather be number 9 than number 900.
Besides, what number is he/she for you? Don't judge on a double standard. Everyone has pasts and past relationships. Remember that. If everyone found their "soulmate" the first time out, the divorce rate would be lower, the number of infidelity cases would be zero, and every relationship would last forever. Some people are lucky to find that right off the bat, but most do not.
2007-05-16 04:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think that it makes a difference to a woman. Although it does make a difference to a man. Men feel the need to compare themselves to previous men, and are at times threatened by the thought that someone could have been a better lover than they are. My husband has only been with four women in his whole life ( he was married for 12 years). He is as sexy as every to me, and I am not bothered by his other frolicks in the sack--cuz he is with me, and I know that he is happy right where he is!!
2007-05-16 04:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The past is the past and as long as it does not get brought into the present or the future, then thats fine.
I had a life before I met my partner, and so did he.
Considering todays society and the fact that I am 27, to find someone with no sexual history who is a similar age to myself would be pretty damned hard anyway.
2007-05-16 04:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by HP 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Thereis life before marriage. Its this life that molds us into what weve become. The past is what it is and theres nothing anyone can do to change it so accept there is a closet in everyones life and move on. If you cant aacept the answers then dont ask the questions especially about someones past. Work on what you presently have and forget yesterday
2007-05-16 04:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
for my section that is all circumstantial. If I had not been the 1st guy or woman my husband slept with i might inquire with regard to the others. such simply by fact this form of courting, how long that they had uncomplicated one yet another, etc. i might additionally, of direction, elect to make certain there have been no STDs in touch. i'm not so shallow nevertheless that i might like him any much less for any of this, yet i might elect to understand.
2016-11-23 17:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by coury 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ..first of all it all depends on 2 things
1 what kind of morals and teachings you grew up with .and of course
2 the attitude of your partner.
1 option bcoz if you think its not right for your partner to lose his virginity then its gonna bother you for the rest of your life. if its ok with u then it shouldn't be a big problem
option 2 bcoz if your partner keeps the same attitude as he had earlier then ur gonna be just a history for him ..thats not gonna result in a committed relationship ..and if thats what u r looking for ..a committed relationship i mean then watch out for his attitude towards you and how he behaves with other girls when he is with you (not when he is personally with u but like he is in ur life and he is still flrting , hitting on other girls )thats gonna b a big problem
p.s. u might want him to undergo an HIV test first( kidding but its true ..u might just want him to do that first ..no one ever knows what could happen)
Thanks and Good luck with your love life
2007-05-16 04:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mike R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I care but there is nothing I can do about it just as there is nothing he can do about the choices I made prior to knowing him...I actually took a vow of abstinence when I was 24 and waited until my husband to have sex again but if I could do it over knowing then what I know now I would have waited for him all along...but he chose me and is faithful to me so I don't worry so much about what he did in the past.
2007-05-16 04:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by juda75 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well. I wouldn't care because then that person has some experience. And Experience in the bedroom can be a good thing. If two people dont know what they are doing, then it can be very confusing !
2007-05-16 04:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Zink71 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I slept with others before him.
2016-01-25 15:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋