i'm suffering from depression, and i get very nervous and freaked out in social situations. i feel very exposed and stupid in public. i'ev been this way for so long and it's stuffing up my life more than you could ever imagine. i'ev seen councellors and all the proffessionals. nothings helped. should i just go out there and push through my fears, just pretend i'm not nervous, and fight for what i want? is this the only way to overcome problems?
2007-05-16 03:56:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i'm just scared what people think of me, i'm scared to make a fool out of myself, but i feel like more of a fool being scared. i can't shake it! HELP ME
2007-05-16 03:57:59 · update #1
You know we all feel this way from time to time. My wife went through 2 years of major depression and didn't leave the house for weeks at a time. She finally found a counselor who helped her with "acceptance". That one word helped her tremendously. Accepting yourself for the person you are and realizing that you are no different then most people. No one wants to make a fool of themselves in public, yet at some point in our lives, it happens to all of us. Accept yourself for the good, bright person you are and hold your head up when you go out. Look people in the eye and say hello. It won't take long before you are feeling more comfortable with yourself. You can do it and live a much happier life. Don't pay attention to what other people think. You will never see them again. Go out with the feeling of "here I am world" one day and see how it feels. You are worthy of enjoying your life and being all that you want to be.
2007-05-16 04:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should try to get out of your comfort zone. People can't change overnight, so it's understandable if your progress are just wee-sized steps. Progress is progress even if it's just 0.0001%. You might want to keep a journal on how you've moved up, or down, the ladder towards overcoming your fear of social situations.
I have an extreme anxiety fear as well, and I know what's it like to be in your shoes. I'm giving you this advice because I think it might help you one way or another, despite the fact that I can't be the person who I envision myself to be whenever I find myself to be in social situations.
2007-05-16 11:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the ability to describe your fears and anxieties well...that means that you have a grip on your reality. You even know the way to overcome them....so, the question is...do you truly want to change and move past these thoughts and behaviors? Sounds to me as though you get some kind of comfort being the way you are...so until you WANT to change...you will stay just as you are.
2007-05-16 11:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what people think of you!! What matters is what you think about yourself and what God thinks about you. God thinks you're a beautiful wonderful person. You should think that also. Try finding things that make you feel good about yourself. Try hobbies and activities. It always makes me feel good to do something nice for others and see them smile in return. Don't worry about your outward appearance. It is what's on the inside that counts. Just be happy with who you are and the rest should follow. Hope this helps. God is with you.
2007-05-16 11:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well acting likea fool might make you feel better besides i think its all in your head of what people think of you if you have a lil bit of confidence in you you will realize that no one is paying attention.
2007-05-16 11:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by juvenilja13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋