After a little argument about my daughter looking at a porn movie that she found in my drawer. He placed her on punishment and then 2 hours later decieded that he could not go on living with a disrepectful child in the house and moved out. how can I get him to understand that I need his help in disciplining her and keep a happy home?
2007-05-16 03:08:49 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
it sounds to me like you are leaving something out - it doesn't make sense for someone of 4 years to walk out just because your daughter watched porn.... maybe theres something else really going on
2007-05-16 03:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Like the old saying children will be children. Hey shes just a kid!!! She found a movie, or at least she though it was a movie and when it came on it was obviously something she had never seen before perhaps intrested and wondering why those people were doing whatever it was they were doing etc......anyway about your boyfriend leaving you I have to agree with the person that just told you he was looking for an excuse or a way out. Why make a big deal out of a little kid finding something and watching it, kids are curious....There is definately more to the story or his story.
2007-05-16 10:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not being funny, but can he say that hes never watched a porn movie? because i can garentee he has if theres one in the house....so whats the big deal?? I can understand if your daughter went through the draws then punish her for going through things that arent hers, but not for watching the movie. If your boyfriends cannot handle looking after the child, then maybe he isnt the best guy to be with.
2007-05-16 10:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by pwincess.klee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to be so blunt but he was just lookin for the perfect excuse to leave u. i mean he's been with u for 4 whole years and if he really loved u he would have let the incident go. i mean who breaks up with someone just because their child was caught watchin a porn video on the grounds that he could'nt keep on living with a disrespectful child? a jerk thats who.its not like he has never watched a porn movie wen he was underage maybe he just never got caught. he probably fell out of love with u and was looking for the littlest incident to happen so that he could leave u.but dont let ur daughter take the blame for him. ur gonna find another guy and dont appear desperate to him.sure it'll take time for u to forget him but and that u'll still have memories of him but that does'nt mean ur life is over.there's plenty more fish in the sea much more deserving of u and your daughter than him. so show him wat u made of and let the sucker stew in his own **** and go out there and find urself a real man,a loving forgiving and understanding one and not a stupid excuse for a man.
2007-05-20 08:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Precious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter?? Dont even bother with him....hes a waste of time. If hes not willing to help teach her the right way instead of just punishing her for the wrong..then hes not right for you. yes 4 years is a long time to throw down the drain. But...if hes was so willing to get up and leave like that...maybe he has been unhappy for a while now and was looking for the right moment to leave....or hes just a complete asshole of course.
Your daughter was just being curious...shes a child....he should be mentally beating you up for that...its not your fault.
2007-05-16 10:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by ChantelleMarie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he was looking for a way out and when this incident happened with your daughter he saw it as a way out, he just needed a reason and this was it!
Adults need to realize that kids and teens are going to explore, we all did it as kids and that is no reason to walk out on somebody..
I would suggest sitting down and having a long talk with your daughter, find out what drove her to want to steal a porn from your bedroom and have her apologize to your boyfriend if you think it's necessary and then have a talk with your boyfriend and get to the bottom of things...
good luck!
2007-05-16 13:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're making it sound like he left because of your daughter...why did you have a porn movie to begin with? I would be pretty ticked off too if I found porn in my boyfriend's drawer.
Unless he knew about it and he doesn't care...
2007-05-16 17:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds wrong on many levels.First a "boyfriend" has no business disiplining your child. Second,what makes her a "disrespectful child'? Because she looked at the movie? That's YOUR fault for leaving it for her to find.Third,if this is the only reason he left,then he wasn't very invested in the relationship anyway and you're better off without him.
2007-05-16 10:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by dog8it 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that there is definitely a lot more to this than what meets the eye or he wouldn't have up and left as he did. This could be a build up of different things over a long period of time that finally this was just the straw that broke the camels back. You may have to accept that he won't be coming back.
2007-05-16 10:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all its disrespectful for him to have that trash in your house much less some where your child can find it !!! I would simply move on with your life your child is way more inportant then some guy. And I would never allow some guy to dicipline my children no matter how long I had dated them.
2007-05-16 10:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋