I think I'm cracking up!?

Question

I've been feeling really low recently for a number of reasons. I don't cope very well with these feelings, and tend to take my anger out on objects i.e. slamming doors etc. I tend to snap/burst into tears at the drop of a hat.

My dad does not seem to realise that there are reasons behind this, and shouts at me to go and see the doctor. I slammed one of the doors last week and the glass panel shattered into pieces. We are having problems at home, and I don't think he realises how they are affecting me.

I hate feeling like this, and want to get back to my happy old self. I feel even worse with guilt etc about how I've treated others while I'm feeling like this, but I really don't want to go and see the doctor. Are there any natural remedies I can take that are not actual anti-depressants that will make me feel any better. How can I make my dad realise that I am not simply being unreasonable, and that there are underlying factors that affect the way I've been feeling?

I am 22 years old, and not pregnant or anything.

I don't mean to break things, it's just my temper flares up, and I tend to take it out on the nearest object. I know I should count to 10 etc but when I go off on one, it just happens, I don't really have time to stop & think before I do things and before I know it, the damage is already done.

Answer 1

This happened to me when I was in my mid 20's, I ignored if for years, it effected me more around the times of my periods, I went through stages of hitting myself with my hairbrush and pushed my sister down the stairs and even hit her friend once, I was really aggressive and hated myself. My Mum and Sister bought me two kittens to help me, as they knew I had always wanted one (or two), this calmed me for a while. Then I started to see a psychatrist that made me feel even worse because I didn't know what was wrong with me, years went by and I moved in with a boyfriend and we'd have terrible rows, all I wanted to do was hit him for no reason through my own fault and anger, he shocked me once by taking photos of what happened when I flew into these rages, when he got the film processed and made me look at them, I was shocked the place looked as if it had been trashed, pot plants smashed etc etc. Anyhow, to cut a long story short, I went to see a doctor as recommended by a friend as she was in the same position as me (although not as bad) and I was advised to take vitamin B6, womens cycle tablets, basically, the doctor told me that my hormones were all over the place as they were telling me that I wanted a baby (although personally I didn't at that time). I've been on these now for years and years and I am as calm as anything now, no more mood swings or aggressiveness, you can buy these at any chemist or supermarket, give them a go for a couple of months (or forever like me) and good luck, by the way they cost between £1.49 - £5 depending on where you buy them from. I usually buy from W M Morrisons.

Answer 2

My shrink says that only sane people think their crazy & only the crazy people think they are sane. Yep he's a nut! LOL

1.) Seriously --go talk to some one. A counselor, a shrink - doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you will have someone to talk to. A person that will not judge you or interfere in your life. Just someone who will be there to guide you- help you to understand why you feel like this and how you can deal with those feelings in a better way. Trust me on this-- it's not a bad thing. You can even find some that are free. You just have to look around. Start at the local community hospital.
After my father was killed I was not right. Not sure where I would be now if I didn't have my shrink. It's good to know that I can go blurt out my feelings and not be judged (or if your friends are like mine they freak out... which just makes it worse.)


2.) Tell your dad. He is your father. You are his daughter. You are technically an adult. If you can't tell him--- write him a note...

Dad,
I know that I have been almost unbearable to live with. I am sorry. I have a lot going on right now that I just do not know how to deal with but I am trying. Hope you can understand.
I love you,


3.) There are no miracle drugs out there. This I KNOW!! You can try all you want. Nothing you take will make it go away. I don’t want to sound harsh but you need a slap upside your head. You might be able to calm your feelings a bit but you need to deal with this head on. There is something that might help you take a step down. It’s called “Rescue Remedy” you can find it online ( I buy mine from i-herb.com) or at some vitamin shops if your lucky. Four drops in a glass of water in the morning might help A LITTLE!! But don't count on it. You need to do the first two also!!

Good luck!!

Answer 3

It seems your having a pretty rough time and indeed all those close to you are too. But it happens to us all.... at some point. Venting anger by slamming doors and smashing things doesn't help. You say you have troubles at home and it may be a good idea to talk to someone about them. It doesn't have to be a doctor just someone who can listen to you.

However, sometimes we do need professional help and admitting this is always the most difficult part of that process. Life doesn't come with a perfection guarantee we have to work at it and sometimes we need to get help. A doctor could help if you are having mental health problems such as anxiety or depression but talking therapies and looking at your temper is probably a better idea. You need to look at the cause of the problem and not the symptoms. Counselling or psychotherapy can help but it's not an instant fix and can be very traumatic but eventually immensely fulfilling.

You need to talk to someone and then talk to your dad.... be frank but keep your cool. As as tempers flare then it all gets messy.

Taking anti-depressants and natural remedies are not the real answer. Your looking for instant gratification and to me you don't sound as if your depressed.

I'm sure you'll find away through this but talking to someone will help. Best of luck.

Answer 4

You are fine and I would certainly NOT start thinking of anti-drepressents all the time. Just start communicating - if you feel down, say to your dad "I'm sorry I was a bit snappy, but I feel bla bla etc etc" Remember that your dad may have some worries of his own that he can't talk to you about. Try and have a positive attitude, if you feel yourself boiling over inside, don't slam anything or crash around - that just creates a terrible atmosphere, walk away from the situation or count to 10 in your head. You can change the way you behave. Sometimes, we all get into a behaviour pattern but negatives ones like this can alienate people from you. Be kind to your date and he when he see a change in you, he will be kinder and more thoughtful back - sometimes, it takes one person to back down in a situation like this and make the first move - that is not a sign of weakness or giving in but one of maturity. Before you know it, you will start getting along OK and you will naturally feel happier inside. Medication is not the answer - you have to change the way you feel, not drugs.Try and be lighthearted - you will find that if you can reduce your outbursts, when you do lose it every now and again, you will be forgiven - if you behave like that all the time, you won't. Set yourself a challenge - good luck x

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I wish I could tell you there was some sort of pill or natural remedy you could take to stop you feeling like this but there isn't unfortunately.

The reason you're feeling so frustrated and pw is because you’re bottling everything up inside. Your dad isn't a mind reader and you can't expect him to know what’s wrong. Perhaps subconsciously you are behaving like this to let him know you have a problem and that the problems at home are affecting you. But your dad can't possibly know exactly what’s wrong unless you talk to him.

You don't need to go and see a counselor and you don't need to go on medication but what you do need to do is get your concerns and issues out in the open. Whatever’s bothering you let it out. Do you have a friend you can confide in? If not, why don't you just write down how you're feeling and why you're feeling like that. It might sound weird but writing can be a release.

And you really do need to talk to your dad if you want him to understand. you don't have to go into great detail but it might help him understand what’s wrong with you as well as to help you relieve some of your frustrations.

Answer 7

As a starter, you need to take a deep breath and talk to your Dad. Ask him not to shout at you and try to explain what is going on. Maybe just let him read your question here first? Remember that you are always going to be your Dad's little girl and he will also have some difficulty in accepting that you are growing up too.

Once done, then do speak to your GP about your feelings. Dont rush off into taking thing like St John's Wort without speaking to a medical professional. All medicines be they herbal or not have some side effects and affect the other medicines you take.

You might just need someone to talk to properly - I dont mean a shrink but a counsellor or similar. Someone who wont judge - but will just sit and listen.

You need to channel your aggression somehow and slamming doors aint it :) Take up a physical sport, maybe kick boxing or maybe persuade your Dad to buy you a drum kit - nothing beats a good workout on the drums.

But most of all, remember that you are not cracking up! you just need to take 5 and breath sometimes - that and speak (not shout) to your Dad :)

Good luck :)

Answer 8

" I slammed one of the doors last week and the glass panel shattered into pieces. We are having problems at home, and I don't think he realises how they are affecting me."

"I hate feeling like this, and want to get back to my happy old self. I feel even worse with guilt etc about how I've treated others while I'm feeling like this"

Sweetie, this is probably not what you want to hear, but you do need to go and see your doctor. If you tell him/her about your desire to try a natural remedy, he/she may be able to suggest something. You'll have to be honest when describing how you feel and what "sets you off". If you don't feel like they're really listening to you, or are in a terrible hurry, find another doc. Your doc may even refer you to another doctor. You could always do a search to find a doc that practices holistic medicine in your area. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

you need to sort out the reasons why your feeling so angry, whatevers p*****n you off, can it be sorted? or is it something that can't go away, stop beating yourself up about this because your on self destruct and that would be a waste of a good person, i agree with you anti depressants can make you worse, try evening primrose oil, its a herbal hormone replacement as such, i can have a really bad temper when i'm due on but this sorts me out. any amount of medication natural or prescribed won't make your 'reasons' go away tho, talking about it will and putting things into perspective will too, my email [e-mail] if you want to chat private. ok.

Answer 10

you and your dad need to sit down and talk adult to adult. if there are problems at home then he is more then likely just as stressed out as you are. medication - herbal or otherwise - is not the answer. slamming doors does nothing but increase the tension - how about slamming a punch bag at a gym instead? going for a run? it is difficult to do but practice makes perfect - keep a positive attitude, walk away from explosive situations until you've calmed down, behave maturely to all around you including yourself. most importantly - talk to your dad!