I can't think of one person who hasn't dealt with rejection and/or regret in one form or another. I've had my share but am curious as to what others would choose to live with and why.
2007-05-16 01:22:47 · 33 answers · asked by poppy 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
~~~ It's easier to live with rejection, than with regret because you can fix it easier. Personally , I couldn't really care less if somebody rejects me. I don't need somebody elses' stamp of approval to make me feel good about myself. I know myself better anyway.....so the rejecter is just stupid and it's their loss. I can hate those creeps and be glad about it. Now, for regrets. They are very hard to live with. Guilt feelings always nagging at me are not fun. And There's not much I can do about some of them, other than try to do better in my current life. I can also do things to make up for what my regrets are. Like put the word out that we all need to spay and/or neuter our pets so we don't add to the stray animal population. ~~~
2007-05-22 14:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by donelle g. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think rejection is far easier to deal with than regret. People reject each other for all kinds of inane reasons. If there was a club for rejected people it would have the largest membership of any club. If you are rejected by someone you know that you are not the only one this person has rejected and they too have experienced rejection along with the other billion or so souls in the world. However, regret is usual a more personal issue and can involve personal failure. Regret is not your fault or responsibility but regret can be.
2007-05-24 00:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by purplepeace59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd pick rejection.
Rejection is freedom to choose. Anyone who rejects me is doing me a favour and clearing the way for me to find someone who will accept and appreciate me.
Rejection is freedom from that persons issues. If someone isn't happy with me, then rejecting me makes sense. Their unhappiness will soon become my unhappiness.
Regret on the other hand is problematic thinking -- coulda, shoulda, woulda. Regret assumes that we have control over things which we do not. Regret assumes that things would have turned out better than they did -- it could have been far worse -- as well as better. Regret assumes that we are at fault in some way for the outcome that we face. Regret is a judgment about what exists here and now, rather than participation in the here and now.
2007-05-16 03:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can live with rejection, but I can’t stand regret. Why? Because rejection originates from others and I don’t have much of control over it, but regret is the result of my own act.
And since I love to maintain my inner peace, I try my best to do things that I wont regret.
If I was rejected by some, I may be accepted by others, but if I did something I regret, it will remain with me forever.
2007-05-23 18:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by a published author 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose to live with rejection rather then live with regret. With rejection,..I would be the one to deal with the pain, pick myself up, dust myself off, and start all over again. With regret,..well,..sometimes a person may find themselves having to make decisions for others that they love or care for. Those decisions can not only hurt yourself, but can also hurt the very people you care the most about. With regret, you have to live with it for the rest of your life....
2007-05-23 16:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Brown Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd much rather feel rejection than regret. I try to live a life free from regret because to feel it means that I denied myself something that I once wanted. It's better for me to try something and to have it go badly or to not be good for me than to always wonder "What if?" Everyone's present situation is a result of everything that they did before, and learning from your mistakes is more important than never trying anything and always wondering what could've been.
As for rejection, everything happens for a reason, and I find it easier to accept that things won't always work out the way I want them to and that I just have to learn to deal with it. Getting rejected and then getting back up again and either trying again or moving on will only make me stronger in the end, and it may end up being something I can look back on and be proud of myself for.
2007-05-16 01:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by Zuzana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather live with rejection because rejection is something you choose to feel, that can be fixed there will always be someone to reject something about you but that comes from an outside source but regret is something we do to ourselves which is the problem because we let ourself down. It is something you'll have to live with the rest of your life if sadly you never get an opportunity to change whatever it was you've regretted.
2007-05-16 14:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by monique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most that have answered, I think regrets are worse. I would rather have tried and been rejected, than to always regret that I did not try.
2007-05-22 17:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by izarla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather live with rejection than regret. Regrets would be my own fault for not acting out my desires. Rejection is something I can't control and it happens to everyone.
2007-05-16 02:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by DAR76 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather prefer regrets. A rejection is more difficult to absorb and it will always stay in the back-streets of your mind. To face a rejection must be very hard and emotional.
2007-05-23 00:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋