My little sister has had two kids already, given one up, and is now on her third child. I on the other hand, am on my first child. All she wants to talk about is her pregnancy this her that. Never once, has she asked about me or anything.
What really did it for me, is We were talking one day, and I told her I had to go take a nap, I was falling asleep on the phone-no one told me being pregnant took ALL of your energy out of you!!!! She replies with, oh ya, well try having twins.
I told her, well you have had two babies already, I have had none, I have no idea what is coming next, she at least has some idea.
That is only one of many examples. Am I being selfish for wanting her to pay more attention to my first pregnancy?
What should I tell her?]
2007-05-16 00:39:49 · 11 answers · asked by src8784 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, you are not being selfish. Just try and understand what kind of person your sister is. She may not be a bad person just someone that does not understand others feelings. She may just only see hers as important.
Sorry, it is just that way sometimes.
2007-05-16 00:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough situation. I don't know your ages, but you stated that you are older, and it is obvious by your examples. You have apparently had more time to develop yourself as an individual than your sister has, right? You haven't been caring for children before. Not to excuse your sister, but the choices she has made make it apparent that she doesn't have proper judgment yet in many areas of her life. But because of this, how long has your sister had time to 'grow up' compared to you? You're right that she is being selfish, but it is a result of a lack of maturity. Don't get angry, and don't expect to change her. People who have made choices that 'stunted' their maturity may take a little longer to "grow up". You're probably not going to be able to even explain to her how much her lack of concern about you hurts you. Realize in time that as she has time to develop herself more, she'll see what happened. If you tell her now, she may only respond with more hurtful and immature words. Be honest, but don't be hurt by her response. Just realize that you are a few steps ahead of your sister. In time, she'll be ready to hear.
2007-05-16 00:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. You ARE NOT being selfish. It's probably experience that makes you feel this way. Maybe some of your friends at work or in your neighborhood have gotten lots of attention during thier pregnancy{ies}. So it is just normal for you to want that same attention.
2007-05-16 00:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by α ρℓα¢є ¢αℓℓє∂ мєℓαи¢нσℓу . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her behavior, she wants the lime lite on her completely dont let her ruin this for you, if you have to dont talk pregnancy with her at all.Gl 2 u and congrats on the baby and no your not being selfish, if ya want to get her gourd ask her how could she give up a baby after she had spent nine months with a life in her belly, and say thank god i will never have to put my child or myself thru that ,(only use that tactic for an emergency blow)
2007-05-16 00:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by helpfull2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is being a little selfish in not asking you how u feel its your first child and obviously a very exciting time for you! I would probably tell her to stop being so self involved and show just a little support for you!
2007-05-16 00:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by shaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell her how you feel. Pregnancy, especially the first one, is always exciting and you want to share it with the world. Even 10 years from now, you'll probably be sharing your experience with people. :)
2007-05-16 00:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, congratulation on expecting. No, you're not being selfish, but I wouldn't expect that it is going to change. It sounds to me as if your sister has a bad case of sibling rivalry.
For your sake, don't let it get to you.
2007-05-16 00:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by WolverLini 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister needs to grow up and discover that she is not the only one on the planet.you deserve a bit more respect and you are entitled to your own individual pregnacy.tell her kindly to chill out and you will both be able to enjoy your life as she is entitled to her own feelings.you need to both support each other and share confidences and the little joys of expected parenthood.good luck and congratulations
2007-05-16 00:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by helly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sister sounds self centered. I have a feeling that she has always been like that. She won't change now. Find someone to talk to that gives you what you want.
2007-05-16 00:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by shirleyshemp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because you are sisters. Don't worry. You'll get plenty of attention soon!
2007-05-16 01:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋