I am 9 months pregnant, very close to labor. No savings, £20,000 debt. My husband has CCJ and £5000 debt. We have lived in my brother's house out of charity for 6 months now. My husband couldn't find a job, until just recently which is in another city. We have to move to the other city. Tried to get a flat from an agency. Saved about £250 to pay the admin fee for the agency. My brother agreed to lend us some £1000 for rent and deposit. Now agency refused us for credit and refuses to pay out £250 back. I have extra £100 saved up to buy some stuff for the baby and hospital bag. We have to move in 2 weeks and everything is just so crap.
I am from overseas, so I'm not entitled to any benefits here in UK, and my life overseas is even worse than here, so can't go back. God what should I do????????????? What would you do if you were in my shoes?
2007-05-16 00:08:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would suggest going over to the welfare dpeartment, they will be able to help you..
Other than that i can't think of anything else that would help you..
I know how it feels i was in this situation once befor only thing was i wasn't pregnant, so i can only imagine how hard and stressful it is for you...
Don't worry, yeah your going through a very hard time but things will get better just give it time..In the mean time do like i said and visit the welfare office, they could help you alot.
ok good luck honey
2007-05-16 05:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take one day at a time. I would stay with my brother, until baby is born, husband moves, starts his job and gets things together for you and his child. There are so many people who would be willing to give you clothes and such for your baby. trust me, posted it somewhere, let the neighbors know and your brothers friends and co workers. Churches are a great source of lending a helping hand. I don't know which state your in but I have stuff. and always remember, someone has it worse off then you . there is only one way to go and that is up. so don't lose it, your going to be OK . have faith and believe and don't allow pride to get in the way of things. You are about to be a mother and that child is going to need you. have a good cry, support and encourage your husband its OK that he goes with out you to get something together for his family. trust is important here. god bless and good luck and am sure on this site if you should share your state or a place to bring items for your baby you would end up with more than you could imagine
2007-05-16 00:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gather some support, friends, family. You need people around you who truly care about you to help you through this time. I hope you have that kind of support. Consider joining a support group. You can call the maternity expert at the hospital where you are going to deliver and ask if there are any groups you can join. Please try to focus on the positive. You are going to be a mother. That is very special. I would contact a lawyer to see about child support also. The father is legally obligated to provide financial support for the baby. The girlfriend issue is small. Being a mother teaches you very quickly what is important and what is not. The lessons begin now.
2016-04-01 03:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby is most important right now. I have so many questions. Are you happily married? Does your husband want to help you? Does he want you to move to the other city? Where is he living? Is his new job able to support his wife and child? Does your brother want you to leave, because if he will continue to let you live there and your husband cannot afford to take care of the two of you, don't move. Can you find a babysitter and get your own job?
You don't know how I would personally love to help you. Your story is very upsetting. All I could say, is stay where you are until you are able to move and always let your brother know, how much you appreciate this. He sounds like a wonderful man. I wish you all the luck. Pray to God, he will help you.
2007-05-16 00:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
as the monetary amounts are in pounds i will assume you are in the uk. there are many places you can visit for help and advice and i suggest you do it now as you are so close to your delivery date. The local council, firstly, explain your situation, uk born or not they will help you, every council office has someone trained in money management as well, they will advise you and help you apply for benefits which you will be entitled to, they cannot simply turn you away. the local citizens advice is also a wealth of information. and as a last resort, you can also contact social services. they will help you and advise you of groups within the community that will help you. i appreciate this may seem so daunting with your baby so close to being born, but you will achieve a lot within a few days. No one knows you are there, needing help, you have to go to them and ask. dont be too proud, or shy, think only of your baby. The very best of luck to you
2007-05-16 00:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
y are,nt u entitled to benefits i think u should go n check this out again , i feel for u pet i really do but something has to give other people who are from overseas get money so y not u go to the local council ur having a baby they cant cu out on the streets even if the house is,nt in the best of areas u should take it good luck with it all i really hope it works out for u my email address is available please let me konew how u get on if i dont reply back quickly its because i,m on my friends pc good luck again xxxxx
2007-05-16 00:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the Department of health and human services so they can help with medical costs and possibly food stamps to get you threw. They also have a program called wic it buys formula for your baby and that is a big help. So good luck with your baby and hope i can help you.
2007-05-16 00:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Maddie 2003 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up.
Keep trying to better the situation. Your husband needs to take whatever job comes along.
You will get back on your feet.
2007-05-16 00:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, don't give up! You should stay with your brother and see if your husband can find somebody that needs a roommate in the new city.
2007-05-16 00:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and move, have your baby, then get a job, you and husband both....slowly you will "get back on your feet". Good Luck!
2007-05-16 00:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋