My husband asked me to go with him to a strip club.....hummm not really sure what to think, we have been married 10 yrs so I am assuming he is trying something new.....confused !
2007-05-15 23:59:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think they do a LOT of damage to a marriage.....don't go!
2007-05-16 00:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I could be wrong but I get the feeling that your husband is just trying to "spice things up a bit". Even the best marriages need some occasional help especially in the romance department. If your marriage is good and you have good communication but the sex life is getting a little routine it's ok to try different things. My husband and I (married 9 years) have this type of marriage so we quite often try to introduce new things. It doesn't mean that we aren't attracted to each other it just means that we don't like being stuck in a rut. I think it might be kind of fun to go to a strip club with my husband but there aren't any where we live. Talk to your husband about this and ask him why he wants you to go with him. Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. Maybe you could go with him once and see what it's like. That would show your husband that you're willing to try new things and he would be more open to any ideas you may have. Who knows, this could be the start of a whole new aspect of your marriage. Good luck!
2007-05-16 03:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men are highly visual and sexual creatures. What do you think is going to happen? He's going to get all happy and excited, sure, but who is he going to go home with and make love to? YOU! He just wants a little spice, that's all. If he was wanting to do something bad he never would have asked you to join him.
If something in your heart or mind is screaming no, then tell him, but if you're just not sure, why not give it a try? He will love the fact that you're open minded enough to try something new, and who knows, it could lead to some awesome lovin' after wards!
I have been to many strip clubs with a guy I dated for a long time, and we always had a great time.
2007-05-16 01:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rae Ray 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really depends on the club. I have been to a couple. The one was a scabby hole in the wall and I wasn't comfortable at all. I just felt dirty (not because of the naked women either) I couldn't wait to get out. The other one wasn't so bad. It was clean and we had a good time. I will say be prepared for the other dancers to "hit" on you. They know the other men like seeing 2 women together and that means bigger tips for them. So if they ask if you want a lap dance don't think they are attracted to you as much as they are trying to make extra cash. (I didn't want a lap dance. I can be in the company of other women , naked or otherwise, and be fine, but I don't want to take it that far.)
2007-05-16 00:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They do not do damage to a relationship, if your marriage is already bad all it does is bring out the inevitable. Youve been married for ten years, your husband not a boyfriend asked you to go. The first time I went to the strip club, i was nervous and was having a mental struggle trying to figure out how i felt about this. I think ive gone, umm maybe three times. I agreed to go and we picked a nice place, not a sleazy place, i even bought him a dance! we laughed it off, bought drinks and he did the same. The girls believe it or not were so nice, and most spoke to me, they asked if he was my boyfriend or husband, i said yes, they were sexy to him but respectful, some even tried do dance closer to me, and it turned my husband on, but the girls asked me, asked if it was allright, she didnt touch me she just danced, then sat on my lap and said in my hear "hope i dont make you uncomfortable, and the guys love this stuff, feed the fantasy, thats all i do, i have kids" i laughed and was embarrassed but she was like thanks, i whispered back in her ear and said "thanks this is my first time, i have kids too". Im a straight woman but some were beautfiul, at first my husband was nervous and scared to look! i told him to relax, and he said "go first!" once i did he did, it was like another evening like having a drink at a restaurant, except by the time we got home, he was very ready and we had great sex. Pick the strip club together or ask close friends about strip clubs that arent sleazy. Just try it, atleast twice. Like you said, he just wants to try something new, like my hubby did, and boy it was beneficial for me, we went it at all night till the almost the sun came up, just dont make going to these places a habit.
2007-05-16 00:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion strip clubs are ok the women are not being forced and the human body is a work of art but in a strip club its just for men who want to blow off some steam I think hes not satisfied with you or youre body and thinks of you as his friend not wife
2007-05-16 00:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he might be into the fantasy of a stripper. Some men love the mental arousal that the stripper gives them. Remember that sex is both mental and physical. he has probably been going to the strip club for quite a while. He might be trying to drop you a hint. Probably wants you to dance and strip like that for him. lots of married women do that for their husbands. The danger comes when he needs that sexual stimulation, in order to have sex with you. If he is having problems being aroused by you, and needs the stripper to be into you. Talk to him, ask him what he wants. I personally had one guy that I was dating that took me to two strip clubs. I realized that he was addicted to strippers. on an average, this guy spent $300-$400 a week at the strip club. Even on his lunch beak he stopped by the strip club. next thing I know, he wanted me to dance for him. he was in love with the fantasy of the strippers. Some of those girls, know how to get deep into a mans mind.
2007-05-16 00:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Trishany 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree totally with GREG and I just think these places contribute to the DELINQUENCY of the world. What good could they contribute ??? None...so, you should try to talk with your husband and point out these things and maybe he'll see things in a different light. Some men are just brought up thinking those places are okay or the thing to do for entertainment...usually stems from ignorance and peer pressure from the other guys, etc.
Yeah...nothing good ever comes from these places and I think they should not exist.
2007-05-16 05:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by BRAT 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Merely a form of adult entertainment. We've been married almost 37 yrs. and we've gone together to strip clubs many times. No big deal.
2007-05-16 00:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I personally wouldn't go, it may cause more damage then good....some couples do this and love it but from the sounds of your marriage it may be a bad idea.
Maybe you could compromise and strip for him, do the dancing and strip and make him tip you. create the experience without damaging your marriage.
2007-05-16 00:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I live in the Memphis area, but out in the suburbs. Recently, the plague of strip clubs in Memphis seems to be making its way out here into the burbs in the form of a single club in Cordova. This has alarmed all the local residents.
You see, this "club" is near playgrounds, etc. and Memphis already has the highest-rate of sexual assaults in the country, and these clubs attract sexual predators from neighboring states, etc. In short, I think these clubs attract bad people into our cities and our neighborhoods whereever they exist, and I am joining a citizens coalition to keep these darned things out of the suburbs and then to see about shutting them all down in Memphis the same way Guilliani shut them down in Time's Square (leading to the return of healthy, family tourism in Manhattan).
Strip clubs are a blight, and they attract crime, drugs and sexual predators into our neighborhoods.
You can read your local papers and read of the raids and arrests for prostitution, drugs, etc. Ocassionally, there are the jealous murders, etc. yeah, real nice places.
2007-05-16 00:07:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋