Hi I have been going with my boyfriend for nearly a year and a half on and off. I love him so much and he knows that and I know he loves me. Ive been in relationships before where I have been cheated on and I keep thinking my boyfriend will do the same. He assures me he wont but I still doubt him. My mum thinks the same about my dad and I think everything she says I look for it in my relationship! I lack of confidence and worry what people think all the time. How can I stop feeling like this and just trust him cause he tells me all the time he loves me. The other thing I worry about is one minute he's all over me and the next he wouldn bother. I no he needs his space but im jus worried i am going to lose him! I no his friends has cheated on their girlfriends, would that make him think the same?
2007-05-15 22:51:40 · 5 answers · asked by Jules 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
donnt worrie so much look at this way say to yourself he trusts me so i must start to trust him if you donnt you may end up losing him anyway so change and he will change stop acting so desperate in front of him keep your respect donnt be to easy with him let him know you do love and trust him and leave it at that ,maybe he thinks you say it to many times .good luck silver fox.
2007-05-15 23:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by aidanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take time to trust someone.
It doesnt matter how much he tells you he wont stray......action always speaks louder than words.
Try and enjoy the relationship for what it is now, a loyal one.
Try and build your own confidence up as well, dont rely on others to make you feel good or bad, feel good about yourself and then if he does stray, you'll know it was his problem and nothing to do with you.
Its good that his friends are loyal to their girlfriends as they will be an influence on him to some extent.
Take care
2007-05-15 23:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by hollyb20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for u to gain confidence an self esteem. How is this gained.......By going out an accomplishing ur goals an by doing activities u enjoy an challenging urself in diffrent area's of ur life. Tune out all the negativity ur mother is feeding u an when u think of somthing negative replace it with somthing postive about ur boyfriend an about ur relationship with ur boyfriend above all. LOVE AN TRUST YOU 1st!!!!!!!1
2007-05-15 22:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over the past. You can't make the new guy pay for the others mistskes.
2007-05-15 22:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why r u doubt him................
if it is without reason that means its ur mental prob.............
go to a doctor
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otherwise that creates lot of trouble
2007-05-15 22:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by zrkhans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋