I feel as though i have no personality?

Question

i feel like i dont have the strength to be confident or have a decent conversation and all relationships(mates,girls...) turn sour in the end. i feel so much hate directed at me when im loud and am being myself and it makes me wanna hide that personality inside. my personality is shy,quiet and intimidated

Answer 1

Well, you have to own one. If you have no personality then adapt one. You can behave differently towards different groups of people like me.

Answer 2

Hey RMC, don't be so hard on yourself!
You certainly do have a personality. It sounds like you do have some idea about it. If you are an introvert, then that's one of the things you are. That's not bad, it's what you are. I think you may be comparing yourself to others, like extroverts. Did you know that every characteristic is important? The world need both types of people to function. You may not be the center of attention, but you will find out more about yourself.
I doubt there is hate toward you, perhaps it's just that the loud you may be inappropriate for the situation, and others may think you should know not to be that way. Since we all judge others by ourselves, you may be judging others too harshly yourself.
Most dating situations do end. Finding the best person for us to marry takes a lot of sorting through people. By this, I mean that you have to see how your personality and the personality of the person you are dating work together. That takes a lot of dating, and a lot of thinking. Taking some psychology classes, and reading some psychology books Will help you understand yourself and others much better.
As for confidence, you will pull more and more of it out of yourself as you find what you are good at, and begin working on how well you do it. One thing you will learn as you become better at observing people, is that many people learn to "fake it." Meaning, they are exhibiting extroverted confidence, but they don't really feel that way. So we think they have loads of confidence, when actually, they feel scared on the inside.

Answer 3

If you are shy, quiet and intimidated....when you are somewhere, locate a person that looks shy such as you are. Whether you are at school, at a party or a group gathering at a friend's or acquaintance's house. Find someone that looks just as uncomfortable or quiet as you are. Walk up to them and talk to them. Pretend that they feel just like you (because they probably do) and try to make them feel good. Ask them questions about themselves. Make conversation. Don't do it for you, but for them! Try to make their night by helping them be social. If you focus on trying to make that person feel comfortable there, then you too will also start to feel comfortable. Because they will talk to you, and you to them! Give it a try sometime. If you know someone else in your group of friends or at school or at work that seems quiet and shy like you, approach them! They will welcome your company and you will begin to feel confident because you initiated the conversation. The more you do this, the more easier it will become.

Answer 4

Although therapy would be sound at this point, I would suggest finding a way to reveal your inner self through an indirect form of expression like art. Many famous artists are or were shy and art played the role of communication. Not everybody can share common codes of communication. Some people have got more complicated mentalities and need more intense the urge to adress themselves through creativity. Furthermore, it is obvious that you are a very sensitive person and art is the main product of sensitivity.

Answer 5

Uh, you just contradicted your question.

Maybe you ought to say, you feel as though you don't have a pleasing personality.

You can't constantly think of what people think towards you when you are out there.

Just be yourself, don't be too much of a suspicious individual, and have more confidence when talking to people.

When starting a conversation, always begin with what's obvious, and try to be honest with your thoughts and don't think that you're gonna screw up.

Also, try not to talk about sensitive issues, and ofcourse, always try to communicate as much as you can.

Answer 6

you poor thing. You must feel very alone. When you are being loud that hate you think is directed at you could be your own projection of how you feel towards others who are loud and able to be who they are courageously even though people may be intimidated by it. They are not worried if people hate them. Just be yourself, don't be afraid to be crazy people will admire you courage even if you are annoying. They will count on you to be who you are and show yourself. Positive people attract positive people. Maybe you are just afraid to shine your light.

...let it shine baby

Answer 7

I believe that if your life so much depend on approval of others and you try to please everyone, you will end up being with no true personality. Investigate your interests. Know what you like and dislike what you agree and disagree. It's ok to be yourself and there are people who disagree with you.