Do you think as we get older and know ourselves better, if we are true to our selves, life falls into place?

Question

I'm 34 and have found that as Ive got older, Ive become more aware of what I want from life and my attitude towards life has become more relaxed and in some respects it has led to my life unfolding the way I want it to. Not in all areas, but certainly in some and I think accepting myself and generally mellowing a bit as Ive got older has helped me in a lot of ways, certainly in the way I see life and myself. Thoughts please? Had similar experience?

Answer 1

Yes I agree with you. Most people grow mature and better as a person when they get older. We also tend to know for certain what is right for us. I think we are at our best when we turn 70 but that's almost time to say goodbye... Isn't life unfair in that sense? We should live up to 200 years. The first 100 years learning and earning and the next 100 years using our knowledge and enjoying....

Answer 2

The keyword here is accepting youself.

Indeed I have a similar experience. As I grow older I tend to accept myself in a way I never thought I would when I was younger.

Also when we get more mature we get more realistics. And that greatly relects on our relationships in a very good way.

Now that I have grown older I realize that what I really want is knowledge. I realized that I had the same need when I was a child after remembering some certain events.

I was wishing however that I had reached this point earlier so my life would've been much easier right now.

So I tend to spend every moment of my life doing what I really want not what anyone else expect from me

Answer 3

As a young person I struggled with emotional illness and substance abuse, in my 20 s my life began to turn around through rehab ,self help groups ,relationship with God.and finally at almost 50 Ive reached a state of peace and contentment.I,ve always attributed this to the sometimes hard work of overcoming negative attitudes and self destructive behavior.so i find what you say interesting and a bit humbling.It,s reminded me that not everyone has such a hard time growing up.I'm not at all resent full about this,I just feel a bit silly that I sometimes pat myself on the back for coming so far when in reality most people are doing it as a normal course of aging.haha.Not everyone insists on kicking against the pricks!
I truly agree that self acceptance and being true to yourself go a long way as far as serenity goes, that and relaxing our imagined control over others and life in general .
peace ><>

Answer 4

Yes, I think you are right. That has been my experience. I'm not sure if it works the same way for men, but I think that a lot of women become more sure of themselves as they mature. As you say, "not in all areas" life is certainly problematic sometimes, but my reaction to problems is what has changed. It's a relief in a lot of ways. I allow myself to do more of the things I want to do, and I carefully pick and choose what I do for other people. I also care much less what other people think of me...that is still an issue for women in this time and place. I think the turning point in my life was when I was widowed at 35. I'm always conscious of the fragility and brevity of life.

Answer 5

It all depends upon what one wants out of life, some want money, some want love, & some want happiness. Life is a trip of experiences, some parts will be up, some will be down.
I'm grateful that I've had more ups than down.Through out my experiences with life I've come to find that life is better when you live it with a true smile, from self respect and by living life with respect. As the saying goes what you give out in life will usually come back to you (karma). Can you tell I wanted happiness out of life, and I got it. Life is beautiful no matter what the situation,it will depend upon how you will accept what comes at you. My best advice to you is look before you leap, and when you do leap smile you'll look and feel better.
Good luck & take care.
ROBERTO

Answer 6

if we are true to our selves, life falls into place? I'm 34 and have found that as Ive got older, Ive become more aware of what I want from life
(are you saying self satisfaction as a primary goal ? )
as you get older you will know more about what you want from life
But what you do good towards others will come back to you .
in most thinking ,,either by positive gets positive ,,or negative gets negative ,,,simply by thinking ,,,i avoid religious beliefs on this subject ,,,
self sacrifice and generosity in any way i could provide ,,
but never losing sight of my dreams and goals worked for me as i got older i got wiser,, and now i still can be self sacrificing and open with help ,,when i can ,,,,and am able to retire at 45 always being positive and as generous as i could even through very difficult times ,,self sacrificing but not on a Dumb scale : ) for any one thinking of emailing me with wanting something : ) ,and always hoping im not arrogant or condecending towards ppl going through some type of real hardship(in my real world here now) or those just wanting something for nothing ,,,and as far as mellowing like fine wine you will mellow some more still ,,but always know what you do for others will be more self satisfying that what you do for yourself ,,without sacrificing your own needs

Answer 7

You would think so wouldn't you? I do find though, that you allow yourself a bit more rope than you do others. I suppose this is a human trait, after all! we all like to be spoilt! don't we? But you are absolutly right about seeing life with a different conception, I only wished we could inpart that into the younger generation. Emagine the mistakes they would NOT make! lol. Have a good day.

Answer 8

I lived in a third international united states of america as a toddler and none of what you have stated be conscious lol. i will merely run out on the line, kill some fly and feed it to ant nest, bypass play tag, punch some toddler(i'm too incredible for this lol) and walk into stranger domicile merely to visual show unit action picture. you already know why, simply by fact back the place i substitute into, people substitute into too busy attempting to stay and furnish for the family members. there substitute into no such ingredient as loose time, the only loose time you get is 7 year past to your beginning. some even commence early lol. My Leo dad merely bypass smoke and drink, chatting and jogging around someplace, until he come domicile previous due evening to wake me up telling me elect him or my mom. My mom, nicely she's busy looking after the huge family members alongside with my aunt and stuff(we are residing in a brilliant family members domicile). Me, i bypass run around with my cousin, bypass to college merely to play around some greater. I never particularly study something from college back then. best i'm getting is a smack with a ruler. nevertheless this sound like a adverse answer, i'm hoping it will open you up(Pun meant).

Answer 9

The older I get, the better I get...
I'm 43, and I can tell you...
The best is still yet to come...
You are infinitely wiser and better than you were at 23, and it just keeps getting better...
More aware, more wise, better in bed, more "here..."
Visual candy becomes less and less important...
Experience, charm, and skill becomes more and more important...
I definitely relate to your question...
You're awesome...
Don't ever believe otherwise, no matter what anybody younger says...
Will you marry me? (just kidding)
And you're way more attractive...(and relaxed)
In every way...(and if it's like this now, imagine how much better you'll be in the future...women under 25 seem like kids to me...
Rock on...

Answer 10

No idea what you mean 'if we are true to ourselves' or 'life falls into place'. You are more relaxed? I think you must continue to challenge yourself so that you do NOT become relaxed as you get old. This applies to mind and body. Do more mentally challenging tasks - learn a new language, read a book on astronomy, for example.When you feel more relaxed it means things are going wrong.