How can I heal my broken heart?

Question

My wife left me. She has been telling people I'm this bad guy and that I do this and that. People believe her. I even have proof that I dont do anything she says. I found out she has been seeing other people before she left. My heart is broke and well I hurt more everyday then less.I know most will say it takes time. Well I have given it time and nothing is getting better. How can I deal with a my broken heart? How can some women be so heartless?

Answer 1

Hi there!

People say that time heals everything .... but i dnt say so. Time makes wounds deeper if you keep thinking about them... and at times it happens so that we want to think about those wounds all the time... my advice engage yourself in things.... probably things that you wanted to do but coud not till now .... once you engage yourslef you will tend to go away from the dark memories.....

My dear friend!

"Life is not to cherish the memories of the spring only
but also to capture the dark moments and learn
and live better"

I know its very easy for me to say and too difficult for you to go through ...but remember that you have no other choice...

Take care
Traveller

Answer 2

Mate, your heart is a tough old piece of equipment and although wounded it will heal fine on its own given time.

Normally with a break-up individuals can call among their friends to lend an ear for sympathy sake and stories often get a little exaggerated to say the least. Of course a lot of those friends belong to both of you and so the conflict exists.

If you havn't done what she's saying then you will sleep better at night knowing that. She on the other hand may not be sleeping so well, if, in fact, she was up to no good prior. Maybe the reason for the stories is to cover her back.

Either way, you have to grieve and move on. All the best to you.

Answer 3

Get back out there in the world. Join a group maybe a mixed sports team, book club, or whatever your interested in. Take a vacation just for yourself (singles cruise maybe) Find something that your really interested in doing to take your mind off your pain and meet new people. You might not be ready for a new love but you can never have enough friends. Set aside some me time and do something for your self because you deserve to be pampered. And it is not just women who can be heartless. Nothing but time will end the pain your suffering through, but try to ignore those little reminders that your hurting by just getting through each day as it comes. Everyone can be heartless when they don't care about who they hurt.

Answer 4

Unfortunatlly for her, the grass is never greener on the other side. She is afraid of getting too close to someone because she has issues only she can manage. When the comfort zone isn't comfy to her anymore, she will run and do the same thing to the next. Until she can no longer run from herself that is. Sometimes this happens in marriages because of abuse that may have taken place as a child, and or bad family values. These are intergenerational habits, that if not broken will keep destroying life. She needs counciling. She needs to know herself. But she cannot until she wakes up and admits to herself that she doesn't know it all, and needs help. I don't know If I have helped with your broken heart, but maybe helped you understand why better. You may need to admit to yourself that there is nothing you can do for her, she can only help herself, and at this point if you take her back, because of your broken heart, you will just enable her to do it to you again. Take care...

Answer 5

i think it is something serious. i don't know how i can react to this . first you should sit down and think,rethink,again re think then take a creative and optimistic decision. i think you have the ability to find the suitable answer for yourself. you are the only man to survive any problem that you face. you have the power.
i hope that broken heart will be healed.i don't know you are a believer or not. but i never insists any perticular religion. that is based on your faith and surcumstances. i definitely hope that if we get some push from out side it become most helpfull when we are in treble situations.
i again insists that you have the poewer to solve the any treble problem, first you should pray to god please clear and give choice to my perception. if you get that hepl and courage you can look all the problems and identifie your problems and forgive toothers .so clear your perception then definitely you can find the solution. i don't know my answer suit for y because i am a 21 boy.

Answer 6

The only times when we "Learn" and "Mature" in life are when we make mistakes. As a kid, When you "Fall" - you look around embarrased, dust off the dirt and move on.... with a wow that you'll not fall again (Not that you never fell again!! You learnt to laugh it off the next time).
As an adult, your fall is no different - albeit an emotional one. Pick up the broken pieces and learn to walk again (It will be wobbly for a bit!!). Don't be pressured to think what Tom, Dick or Harry is gonna feel or think.... Only God thinks of you 24/7. Friends or Family can only help fleetingly.
Cheers!

Answer 7

I'm sorry that happened to you. You do have to allow some time to grieve, just like you would if someone you loved died. After all, your marriage died, so you should grieve for it for a little while. Then, when you're ready move on, you will. It may help to distract yourself with other things. Go out with your friends more often, volunteer for extra projects at work, whatever will keep your mind off your former wife. Give it time, and you'll see that you think about her less and less.

Answer 8

Hi, What a blessing!!??

Let put it this way, she is talking bad about you to others and also seeing other guys behind your back. And now she left, you get heart broken??? why should it be??

Oh, my Gosh, you should be glad she left you, what a blessing in disguise, if she had not left you, you may have more problem than you have now. Think in that direction, and slowly you will get enlighten

Answer 9

Stop focusing on your wife's mistakes and start focusing on yours. It is the best way to find your peace. People who know both of you can judge by themselves. TIme IS your best friend right now and do not underestimate it. Stop communicating with your mutual friends for a while, stop trying to clear your name, just focus on yourself and dont give a **** what she is saying and to whom...If she is lying, she will get caught in her lies one day and she will destroy herself. If things are like you say they are, you are better off without this woman. Focus on what you did wrong in the relationship so as not to repeat it in a future relationship. Focus on healing your wounds and believe me...not ALL women are like this. She simply was not THE ONE for you. Stop beating yourself up about it and start living, free from her toxic behaviour. YOU ARE FREE FROM HER ..... START LIVING!!!!!!

Answer 10

well.. u know the truth and the lord knows it too.. she will get what she deserves in time.... on the other hand u give yourself some time to heal..

and only some one are heartless.. u have been unlucky.. wait for sometime and u will find a real woman and real love