A friend of my friend just died ............?

Question

he was in a car accident, i didnt really know him, he was more of a friend of a friend, he was a senior this year & died 1 week before he was suppost to be getting out of high school for good, its been affecting me real bad i feel so bad & all i can think of is is family & what it must have been like to pass away that way (it was real bad) & i cant stop looking at his myspace & reading all these plans he had for after high school...Ive started to realize how fragile life is & how you really cant bank on being here tomorrow & im getting really depressed about that as well, i dont know what im trying to say, has anyone ever felt like that after someone passed away?

Answer 1

Well, it's always like that when someone you love passes away... You just have to hold on and be strong cause you have to go on.

Answer 2

I lost my sister 10 years ago. She was my 13 year old little sister. These are all ways in which we grieve for our own kind. It is part of life to grieve. I remember that I came across a cat that had been hit by a car and unfortunately had died. What always sticks in my mind is that there was another cat sitting beside him and the oncoming traffic didn't startle it for it would not leave the side of one of its own. I will never forget it. You must learn that death is apart of our life. We all live and we all die. We do not know what is in store for us in the next life but we know that this one must end. For some reason it is very hard and very painful. We must only live life and not think about there being a possibility of no tomorrow. Time will heal your wounds whether you think so or not. Just as you would want someone to grieve for you, you must also grieve for them. Grieving is part of your recovery. Although you will never forget, you will recover. Maybe now you are more human than ever and you have become the healer. If we did not experience pain we would have no idea what pleasure and love was.

Answer 3

I have when my aunt died. I didn't know here that well but when I did see her I remember how funny she was and she was pretty young. Her and her 7 year old daughter (my cousin) was attacked in there home by a man she knew. my aunt was stabbed over a hundred times and my little cousin just as much. My aunt died and my little cousin lived because she layed on her mom and played dead and when the man left she walk out of her house covered in blood trying to find someone to help her. her wounds were horrible. But anyway things just kept running through my mind like how that must have been to experience that and how I had just seen my aunt like a week before. It will pass just get all your thinking out of the way and move on, that's really all you can do. It doesn't help for you to feel bad. Email me if you want and add me to your contacts.

Answer 4

I think that it is most likely because you are at such an impressionable age right now. You see yourself and all of your friends getting ready to start the rest of your lives and he is not. The loss of anyone does make you realize how short life really is and that we have no guarantee of tomorrow. I am sorry for what you are going through and hope that you can just use this as a learning experience to enjoy every single day of your life and always show your loved ones just exactly how much you love them, because we really do not know which day will be our last. God Bless you and all of your friends as well as this young man's family.

Answer 5

An unexpected death of a young person is difficult to handle and it does make us realize how precious life really is--we should cherish the time we have on this earth because tomorrow is not promised to none of us-try to be there for your friend as much as possible and judging from your question I think you will be fine. Try not to dwell on the past but look forward to a new day.

Answer 6

I am sorry for your loss: it is never easy to lose someone - regardless of how close (or not) they are in your life...

Unfortunately, sometimes it takes a tragedy (even if it doesn't directly affect you) to shake you out of your current state of mind - and to be able to look at the big picture again.

Life forces you to focus on what it is you are doing NOW - school, work, paying bills, etc. Your goals and dreams often get forgotten in the daily grind - and if you don't have a way to keep in touch with them, then they will waste away.

Answer 7

I felt that way when my dad passed away, it's kind of part of the grief process. Luckily I had my Mom and my grandma to talk with. We prayed a lot. All of that seemed to help me work through it.

Answer 8

Yes i have my papa died from cancer and i wish so badly i could see him just one more time but then i think of all the good times we have had together you just have to try to think of other things no matter how much it hurts.