I am a big bit sad and even a bigger bit confused, after thirty years read on?

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I am a big bit sad and even a bigger bit confused, after thirty years read on?
Last night my best friend and the love of my life told me that she wanted to end our marriage of thirty years,, I will not go into the details suffice to say that today I feel really sad for both of us,, I'm sitting here typing this knowing that she will be home in about two hours and I'm gunna cook dinner,, I think inside my heart that my friend of all these years had finally decided that she needs something else in her life,, this leaves me confused,, just a few suggestions would be nice,, BTW I don't hate her

Answer 1

Firstly, did she say exactly why she wants out? You need to know why, if you hope to get her to stay married to you. It's really very sad, but after 30 years, something must have happened to change her feelings for you. If she no longer loves you, then you have no choice but to let her go. If it's something you can change, then you have a chance. I've been married 30 years, so I know how much of your life you have invested in your marriage, and wish you all the best. Just remember, it's not the end of the world, maybe just a new beginning, look after yourself.

Answer 2

Well Im sure you know why its happened and have accepted whybut its so sad you will lose a freind now too. Is there nothing you can do now or is it all too late.? Come on there must be something you can do ! Did she just stop loving you ? Why ? Did she say why ? Accept the reasons why if there are any. If not she owes it to you to sit down and explain why or you will always be confused .

Answer 3

Didn't you see it coming,something happened a wife just doesn't want out for no reason.Who cheated on who? I'm not
being mean to you,you just haven't said anything.I would love to help you,I no what it's like waiting for your spouse to leave
you and knowing that there isn't a thing you can do.Your heart is braking and you want to run to her and tell her just how much you have always loved her and it will kill you to see her walk out the front door for the last time.You need to do something fast before that day comes.I am sorry for your pain.

Answer 4

This song sprung to mind the minute I read your Q

I was tired of my lady, we'd been together too long.
Like a worn-out recording, of a favorite song.
So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed.
And in the personals column, there was this letter I read:

If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.
If you're not into yoga, if you have half-a-brain.
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.
I'm the lady you've looked for, write to me, and escape.

I didn't think about my lady, I know that sounds kind of mean.
But me and my old lady, had fallen into the same old dull routine.
So I wrote to the paper, took out a personal ad.
And though I'm nobody's poet, I thought it wasn't half-bad.

Yes, I like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.
I'm not much into health food, I am into champagne.
I've got to meet you by tomorrow noon, and cut through all this red tape.
At a bar called O'Malley's, where we'll plan our escape.

So I waited with high hopes, then she walked in the place.
I knew her smile in an instant, I knew the curve of her face.
It was my own lovely lady, and she said, "Oh, it's you."
And we laughed for a moment, and I said, I never knew...

That you liked Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.
And the feel of the ocean, and the taste of champagne.
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.
You're the love that I've looked for, come with me, and escape.

If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.
If you're not into yoga, if you have half-a-brain.
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.
You're the love that I've looked for, come with me, and escape.

I don't know how but try and Fall in love with each other, all over again

Answer 5

WHY does she want out? I approached my spouse of 27 years and wanted out because he always treated me " less than". I finally got a backbone and boundaries and threw out the door mat. He's getting help and things are looking up. Intimacy helps alot. I had to actually get divorce papers before he would try to improve his behavior.

Answer 6

ok first of all u need to put in some more details as to why she has taken this decision all of a sudden? there must be something that has happened that she didnt like ..its not like she is a kid ..she was married to u for 30 yrs ..but if you believe that you havent done anything that made her take this decision then i think she might be cheating on u ..she is in love with someone else for sure..coz trust me ..woman just dont leave their happy married life for anything..and since u already wrote that u cook dinner for her ..i feel that u r a good husband who can do things to make her happy ..but u need to talk to her and ask her as to why she is leaving u ? and what made her take that decision all of a sudden?

Good luck with ur married life Thanks

Answer 7

I am sorry---I don't understand why people throw away marriages. Long or short. 30 years is a long time! Sorry, I don't know what to say. n

Answer 8

Cherish the good times, I feel there is alot understood with her decision to leave , so end on good terms and move on ...it is said as one door closes another opens...good luck.

Answer 9

She will never tell you the real reason why!!! Life sucks. I don't have any real sugetsions but I feel sad for you.

Answer 10

I just don't know.