my husband and i seperated in march we new this as coming he new more then me I have liked this guy for about 3 weeks and he is seperated for 1 and half years my husband and i just grew apart. the guy i like caught his wife with another man( his best friend). we are keeping this on the down low we are both christian and he told me he does not want people to lable us and say we are commeting adultry. we have not and i do not want to sleep with him because yes we are both still married
IS IT WRONG TO TALK TO THIS GUY AND TO LIKE HIM HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-15 17:52:59 · 12 answers · asked by hia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're playing with fire if you talk to him. And as a Christian, then you KNOW that all things in darkness (downlow) will come into light...THEN you will be guilty of leading others in a negative direction. If you are both commited to being a Christian, then get your relationship with the Lord in shape THEN pursue getting single (if that is what the Lord would have you do) THEN come together in purity and with honor as two Christian people should act. This has been happening in my church like crazy! and it is causing alot of grief. I was seperated for 2 years and I stayed single. My husband and I did get back together and it was hard...I KNOW what lonliness is. that is when you have to turn to God to be the man in your life. And keep in mind that if he has been seperated for a year and a half, then he either needs to get back together with his wife or get divorced and THEN pursue a new relationship....not hang onto some old relationship and begin a new one. If he has respect for the sanctity of marriage then he will honor his vows or break ties with them, ask forgiveness and RENEW his mind before he renews his girlfriend...you too... It's not easy, but it is the only unsinfull thing. and if this happens to be Tonya, then girl, get in touch! This is Kathy
2007-05-15 18:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce your current husband, and he divorces current wife, if there is no spark in the relationship, where is the boom, what is the point of staying married,
like a firecracker without the explosive powder in it,
at first there is a sizzle
and the sizzle stops and you exspect a boom
and there is no boom
and btw, do u have kids? does he have kids? if not, it's not adultry it is cheating, so like i said in the beginning DIVORCE
don't cause new problems when u still have old ones to solve
2007-05-15 18:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Last Of A Dying Breed Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel guilty? I believe you should get divorced before getting into another guy cause everyone will think he is the reason for you marriage to fail. Wait till it is final and dont sleep with him if someone can prove you are with him you could lose everything to your soon to be ex. If he caught his wife cheating he is probaly looking for someone to run to dont be the girl he runs to on the rebound
2007-05-15 17:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by COUNTRY GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to like him and to talk. Just remember that there is still the potential for heart ache between 4 people, and anger could possibly ensue. It is a dangerous place to put yourself as well as all of the other people involved here.
2007-05-15 19:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was widowed. I know many who were divorced. I have found that after the ending of any long relationship, married or not, (no matter how it ended) your first relationship is for therapy, never for keeps. So have the relationship. It will be good for BOTH of you. But don't count on it being "The One Forever."
2007-05-15 18:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear your pain. i was in a love-less painfull marriage and 4 mos after my ex and i seperated i met the love of my life. people treated us as if we were the devil himself. my ex's family cut me out and so on. (even though my ex cheated on me during the marriage). True love lasts through an test, so if he is Importatnt to you then follow your heart! who cares what others think?
2007-05-15 17:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by eb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it wrong, both of you are still marry, so you need to
close one chapter this book. before open a new one.
when both of you are out of your marriage if that what is
to happen then you can pursuit this. but for now leave it
along.
2007-05-15 18:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that is something he should be discussing with his preacher or one of the brethern,i really dont think it is your place at all.you can committ adultery not only physically but mentally...this is a problem best that you stay out of
2007-05-15 17:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by pattialfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you absolutely sure that there isn't any way to save your marriage? That's the question you have to answer first.
2007-05-15 17:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to solve your old problems first before making new ones.
2007-05-15 17:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋