im 18 in gr. 10 but i only have 2 friends?

Question

i barely had friends my life because i have always been the uncool one at school every year i barely make any friends its amazing i actually made 2 friends this year...i dont even know how it happened. People just dont talk to me i dont know why
Im labeled emo cause i wear a my chemical romance tshirt, have scene hair, and tight pants with old chucks and eyeliner btw im a girl
if you saw a person like that wouldnt you be friends with them?

yes or no?

and people at school are mean to me :( why is this?

and beginning of the school year when i enter the class every one stares at me like im an alien for some reason

Answer 1

"Scene hair?" WTF is that?

Is this the "new" lamer version of Goth?

Been there done that, and still doing it better then "EMO".

Answer 2

Dear, I know this is a difficult time in your life, but HS is all about conformity. Those who stand out for any reason...perceived or real...will be picked on. It's just a fact of life. Most people, not all, grow out of it.

You might wonder why they do it? because they're just as insecure and full of self-doubt as you are...and to make themselves look and feel better, they put others down.

So, congrats on making 2 friends, a good friend is better than 50 acquaintances. If you're really really really bothered by it, I'm not saying to conform completely, but it probably wouldn't hurt to dress a little better, just go with 'smart casual'...you're almost an adult now anyway, might as well start practicing and start thinking about your future. Most jobs require a 'smart casual' mode of dressing...and some require even more classy. Don't do it all at once, you'll be uncomfortable...just a little here and there for when you're at school. Save the 'just gotta be me' look for when you're hanging out at home or with your friends or when you go out.

Answer 3

Because they know they can get away with it. I was a victum of bullying in school girls as well as boys, i went 2 a catholic school beleive me u haven't lived untill you've attended one of those. Trust me i don't mean 2 sound fatalistic but it doesn't stop with grade school. As for being cool nothing's cooler than just being your self. ok so u ain't miss popularity but i've seen where some of them end up. you probably got more going 4 u than they ever had u just don't know it yet. try if you can not worrying so much about it i know easier said than done, this may sound stupid but right now your best friend is school. as for
friends well there a novelty at best. have u
tried joining groups at school try finding out what other people are interested in who knows you may share the same interest. good luck to you and don't give up ok? . . .

Answer 4

They are mean to you because you are an idiot. 18 in 10th grade means you have flunked not once, but twice.
My suggestion is this.....quite trying so hard to look cool and find a social group. Instead try finishing high school. It's not like it's that hard.
High School kids are cruel. That's just the way it is. if you don't like the way they are then pull your head out of your a$$ and try finishing high school to get away from it.
Why is it that the kids that hang in the "Goth" crowd are the ones that say they don't care what anyone thinks of them yet they care the most? And why is it that they thrive on so much dumb a$$'d drama?

Answer 5

Well first impressions are important.And lets face it,kids are cruel.Dont let them take your spirit from you.Education is the best thing you will ever do for yourself.Forget them kids.
Be yourself and be proud of who you are.Tell yourself you are a good,decent,kind person who dont want people in her life that are judgemental anyway.
You have to believe in yourself if you want anyone else to believe in you.
As far as friends you are probably better off with 2.I am 36 and have probably 4 true friends.They are few and far between.All the others usually end up with drama attached.
Hold your head high girl.Life will get better for you if you believe.

Answer 6

If you have two true friends, be grateful because I have met so many people who don't have the first clue on how to be a friend or make a friend. Some of the most successful people had a very difficult time in school.

Answer 7

I suppose I could tell you could to dress in a bit less flamboyant manner, but who is the guy who wears a kilt to say something like that.

If they don't want to be friendly, don't sweat it. Good books, and good music are better than a bunch of flighty airheads anyway.

Like yourself and it won't make any difference what other people think.

People are mean because you are not part of the pack. And in general, children and teens are extremely cruel to people outside their cliques.

Like I said, good books, good music, and making good grades. Those things can keep you sane until you finish high school. College is generally better for us outsiders.

Doc

Answer 8

You are drawing attention to yourself. Do you ever think about changing the way you look. I didnt not have any friends in school either but i really didnt want any. TRy not to stand out. It is about what is on the inside not th eout alot of people judge a book by the cover now days. Thats why it is important not to stand out .

Answer 9

2 good friends that you know well, that accept you for whom you are, whom you accept for themselves, who will be there for each other, you can confide in and know they won't spread the gossip about you,,,,,are worth far far more than 10 friends who like you for your money or clothes, or hairdo.
I had 3 friends like that in HS. We were "alone together." We just had our 40th HS reunion. The 4 of us (2 guys, 2 gals) have been in contact w each other, know each others' spouses and kids, and have remained close, even tho we live in Omaha, Minneapolis, Chicago, and Denver. BFF cheerleaders couldn't even hardly recognize each other. We four have cheered each other on thru marriages, families, deaths of spouses and deaths of kids. We have all made other Friends along the way, but the 4 of us remain true bec of the things I mentioned in the first sentence.

Answer 10

people are mean to you at school because they feel that you are weak! you should continue to be who you are and keep your head up high because you are not livin for anyone else but yourself! and as far as friends.. they come and go cause believe me sometimes none is better than some! just dont change and dont be discouraged because no matter who doesnt wanna be friends with you, you always have family and the man upstairs to look out for you and have your back by any means necessary! keep your head up and take care!

Answer 11

I would just ignore those people and be happy with the friends you have made. Life goes on and you'll meet people who are more like you and all that good stuff. It's tough getting made fun of in school, but once you get out of school you'll look back at those people and realize how stupid they are. People never really made fun of me in high school, but they didn't like me, and for no reason at all. Now half of those people are pregnant, aren't in school and are heading down the drain. I am doing well in college and looking at good job aspects, so it's my time to make fun of them, in my head of course though. haha. all in all, I would just let them be stupid and make fun of you because it just shows that you're the better person, and don't let them know it bugs you, just act like you don't give a crap and they'll eventually stop. Maybe their just jealous that your willing to dress and be who you want to me, and that should make you happy!