Should i try to work on the friendship or end it?

Question

My friend of 15 years cheated on her husband and used me as the scapegoat saying i put the hickies on her neck. Her husband believed her. She cheated on him at least 5 times i know of and she promised it wouldn't happen again. She accused her dad of raping her cause her sister did it. Her sister did it only because she hated her step mom. she admitted that she wanted attention and it wasn't true. The sisters are bi polar. Their mom cheated on their dad in front of them while their dad was at work. She left when they were young. My friend was fine til she got pregnant her mom told her the meds would hurt the baby so she stopped taking them. She went to see her mom came home and was totally different she snapped at me which she has never done..accused me trying to break her marriage up she started using drugs and was super skinny, she told me her dad raped her while they were over there for christmas and that he always touches her or comes in while she is in the shower while over there

she is too willing always have since i've known her. she acts like a whore at times and i don't believe her i want to but i can't her dad is like my 2nd dad. She was sneaking out of the house at age 13. I love her she's like my sister. She calls me with her drama and i try to help but it's the same thing over and over again. her husband is hittin her which he isn't cause she told me that she lied cause she doesn't want to be with him. She can cheat but he better not look at another female. she kicked him out and than left her son with him while she moved into a hotel and slept around. she started hanging out with a gang and had them jump her husband and has a contract out on her step mom and dad...Now she is in a mental hospital and wants to see me...Even after how much she hurt me i still wanna see her but than again i don't want to go through the same thing over and over again. Should i end it?

Her step mom let the cat out of the bag to her husband about how she used me as a scapegoat to cheat on her husband with and she is claiming that i told her husband thats why she has went coo coo on me...And for your info i am not enjoying the show! she left her son in the car while she went to work...left him there for 6 hours at night...And she thinks it's ok...I have a daughter of my own so i know she's lost her mind. I just don't want to turn my back on someone who has been there for me while noone else was...I was there for her miscarriage her pregnancy and even there for her son who is like my nephew so it's not an easy decision....cause if i choose to end it i may never see my nephew again...

Answer 1

Okay, first of all, while reading your question I was shocked by how many times the words "cheating", "scapegoat", "lying" and "accused" came up. Just based on this, I can tell you that the situation you are in is not a good one. Sounds like the people you know are lying to you and using you to better try to manipulate their own lame lives. Get out while you can - start slowly, though. Gradually ceasing contact and making excuses not to see them is my advice. Just reading your question make me realize how much you have on your mind because of these people and how much of a burden their troublesome lives have become. Time to let go and stop worrying and paying for someone else's problems. It really sounds like you have a good heart but you shouldn't serve it on a platter to the wrong people. If you want to help your friend, tell her to get help while waving goodbye.
Best Wishes

Answer 2

when a person is crying for help, or obviously is in need of help, u dont bail out on the, that aint a true friend
you need to stop holding things bak and go all out since things are gettin out of control, since by now she's usin u to lie and cheat, u knoe thats wrong, tell her that she shouldnt do that, or u will take action yoself, if u think it's wrong, dont sit there and say it's wrong, but stop it by watever means
the past is the past, watever happened then, shouldn't happen now, but let it get in the way of the present and future
keep an eye on her "dad"
maybe u can trick her, or break up your friendship wit her for a certain time, to see how much she really cared, well at the same time, it depends on how much u both been through together, but at the same time u dont sit and enjoy the show your friend is doin
especially after 15 years

Answer 3

Get away before she puts a contract on your head for not bringing her a big mac. That's just insane, if she's like that to other people what makes you think she's serious with you?

Answer 4

The whole family sounds screwy. Sorry, I think this woman needs a lot more help than you can give her.

Answer 5

wow
pray for them and get them into a spirit filled church with the power of Jesus Christ
untill then YES i would stay away

Answer 6

I would try and work hard for your friendship.

Answer 7

run while u can