Ages 5 - 16 my mom did whatever she wanted, left me with people, I changed schools 21 different times (no joke). From ages 16 - 21, I was raped, I drank a lot, I got my GED, had 2 kids, got my tubes tied & burnt, lived wherever I wanted. From ages 21 - 24 I had been beaten, ran into a phone poll (not drinking).
At age 24, I came to stay with my granny til my father in Tennessee could rescue us & help me out. She was in good health then. While waiting 4 him to set things up for me there, granny wrecked her car, broke her collarbone,needed 6 months to heal & I stayed. At end of the 6 mths, I get a call from dad's wife, he had shot himself & they are waiting on me to come pull his plug. I did & came back to granny.Her diabetes, congestive heart failure, arthritis & bronchitis set in. I have cared for her since. She has lost her mind, I have all but lost mine. She gets worse- they put her in a home - my kids & I will have nowhere to live. Have no car as is. Squatters rights? Legal Help?
2007-05-15 17:06:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Time to do something for yourself! It sounds like you are ready to take your life and future into your own hands. You should be able to get quite a large grant to go college, and the rest in government loans. If you are ready to help yourself, it can be done. It should be enough to pay for housing in a college area. If you have your GED there are some "open admission" colleges out there and if you have internet you should be able to do some research and find out where they are.
1) get online and fill out a fasfa at http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/
(do this first because it will take time to get approved. Schools have deadlines and you need to get it approved asap.
2) Find an open enrollment college and apply (for whatever semester will be able to get aid for)
3) Enroll in it
4) Find a place to live with the money on or near campus. Some schools you don't need a car. In some cities, public transportation passes are included with the tuition.
4) go to all classes and don't miss and try as hard as you can to succeed - get help if necessary from programs offered at the college - maybe single mom programs? Find babysitter for kids - some schools have daycare now.
Yes, it takes a little work to get all this going, but if you are ready to help yourself then do it!
2007-05-15 17:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by School Is Great 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have had a pretty rough life. Now take a deep breath and get out some paper and a pen. Write down what you have working for you. (GED, Child Support, Jobs, etc...) and write down what you need to work for you. You notice I keep saying you right. I grew up in hell too. But I had to leave the past behind me. Yes there are times when I least expect it that it comes back to me. But i handle that when it comes. Don't give up. You have 3 big reasons to live. First one is yourself. Second is your kids. You have to love yourself before you can fully love them. You have to break your life cycle of that generational curse. You have to be strong for yourself and your kids. It's not going to be easy, but if you have endured all of that, you can do a lot better in the future. If you have to go to a local shelter and stay. It is free. Get you a full time job anywhere you have skills. Save your money. Once you get a good $2000.00 or more saved you will have enough to get an apartment. Some states offer section 8 and housing to low income families. Get on your own two feet and quit letting your past cripple you. When the time comes, the right man for you will appear. Try to help with your grandmother since she has been there for you and the kids. If she is put into a nursing home, go visit her and talk about positive things. YOU have to try to stand on your own two feet. The reason you are going through this test again over and over is because you have not passed it yet. It will be hard sometimes but you are here for a reason. Time to pray and ask for God's help too. Good Luck, I hope everything works out for you.
2007-05-16 00:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by bunnicula 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have certainly carried many crosses and my heart goes out to you. I can relate to some of the things you have or have gone thru. If you live near a town where they have a center for abused women, you might be able to stay there and they will help you get your life back in order. Or at least give you some relief and support.
Try to get help from a mental health center to help you cope with what you are faced with. Another thing I thought of is some churches have social programs where they house and give assistance to people. Call Catholic Charities or any organization that provides social help.
By all means, never give up, you have children that need you. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that this is a temporary difficult time in your life. Pray to the Lord for peace and guideance. He is always with you if you ask him. Hope this will help you. I wish you the very best. God Bless.
2007-05-16 00:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sunny louise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all let me say that I hope things will get better for you. Having said that does your granny have a will? If she has and you are mentioned in it then what she has left you is all you are entitled to. Do you have a pastor to talk to? If not you can go to any church and I'm sure they will be glad to talk to you. You can also go to you state human resources office and apply for government help. Sounds like you will qualify for any assistance that your state offers such as food stamps,Medicaid for your children,and even job assist. Keep your head up I know this doesn't really help when you are really down but my dad always told me when you think things are bad look around and you will always find somebody that has it worse than you do--I have found that to be true throughout my life. Go to webmd and search there might be something on there that will help you but the best thing is to go to a church pastor. I will be praying for you and good luck!!!
2007-05-16 00:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by wilma flintstone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes - The internet is not the only resource you have, but since you have it, use it to find other resources in your local community. Find out where the food bank is - find out where the Public Aid office is, get there and apply. Look for non-profits that help with training so that you can get a job. Get an apartment. Take care of your kids and be a better mother than yours. Stand on your own two feet. Stop vicitimizing yourself. Stop waiting for someone to rescue you - rescue yourself. Good luck.
2007-05-16 00:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear this is life! Your handed lemons, make lemonade.
We all have our own personal dealing with life's mishaps. (Hell knows I could top more than what you just listed.) Be strong, keep going for those kids. The writing of this posting shows you have some education, so put it to good uses!
Seek out a legal aid lawyer in your area and maybe social service, or a church /s. Do you what they call Salvation Army, Untied Way in Tennessee?
Good luck, stay strong.
2007-05-16 00:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant take care of your granny? try to find out how you can care for her, maybe have a nurse come to the house once a day or something, take some schooling for it. check out your resources. that blows what a rough life. stay strong for your kids no matter what.
2007-05-16 00:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look up the Tennessee Bar Association. Send them an e-mail asking them to direct you to civil legal aid. You may be able to get an attorney for free through civil legal aid. It doesn't hurt to apply.
2007-05-16 00:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's something odd about this question. Why are there no spelling errors?...even inadvertent ones? (You use abbreviations...sure...but otherwise you are very attentive to detail). Something smells fishy...
2007-05-16 00:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Brand X 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
find a good man and hold on to him tight.
2007-05-16 00:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋