have a bad habit, always finish other people's sentences and they always say I am a bad listener. Please help. it's so difficult to be a good listner..
2007-05-15 16:43:08 · 20 answers · asked by 1001Questions 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hearing and listening are two different things. Hearing is more physical, whereas, listening has a physiological and psychological component. Interrupting is more of an issue of "rudeness" rather than listening. Maybe you can learn something new if you allow yourself to process the information. Who knows it may save your life some day.
2007-05-15 17:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Patrick the Carpathian, CaFO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking- and I'm serious.
Try this one day:
pick a busy place like a cafeteria, mall, or workplace with people in close proximity. Make sure that the people near you are people you don't really know. Then close your eyes and just listen to what they are saying while really concentrating on what they're talking about. THIS IS EASY NOW BECAUSE YOU DON'T KNOW THE PEOPLE YOU'RE LISTENING TO!
It is hard to truly listen to people you know because you become comfortable with them, which permits the rationalization that you can predict them. This is not true and it is a hard lie to get over.
When you learn to be humble, in that you can't predict those you know, then you can listen well.
Remember, man who laugh last not get joke. But man who laugh first not hear punch line.
2007-05-15 16:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by cptbirdman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask a question ... then instead of finishing ... pause ... listen to what they're saying, and ask a question to dig deeper into the conversation.
Example:
You: How do you manage being President so well.
Me: Well, I organize and delegate my responsibilities.
You: What are the responsibilities you delegate.
Me: List to call the organization, clients, and volunteers. Plus, the secretary to manage the calendar.
You: Do the volunteers find the calendar helpful?
2007-05-15 17:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You finish their sentences because you know what they are going to say!!!
It's ok. I do the same thing myself.
For me, I want to show them that I can connect, that I understand because I CAN finish the sentence.. and the rest of the time it's , ok ok NEXT! lets move on.
The only way is to bite your lip and shut up and let them finish.
A good way to "Listen" is to paraphrase back what they just said.
It shows:
I have been paying attention
I care about what you say enough to verify it's contents.
I am interested enough to go through the effort
All you do is parrot it back to them (not too much or they will think you mentally deficient) and they are think They are suddenly interesting.
Anyone who makes them feel interesting, (AKA good about themselves) they will think more highly of.
Good luck.
2007-05-15 16:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee. I thought I was the only bad listener.
What I do is practice keeping my mouth closed, ears listening, and paying attention to the one with whom I am in conversation with. When it is my time to respond, then I give my response, or contribute to the topic of the conversation.
It is hard to do at times, but the more I practice this process, the easier it becomes.
2007-05-15 16:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by jane p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Pay full attention to while they're saying sincerely.
2. Share your experience about what they are saying too.
3. Be understanding in their viewpoints.
4. Sometimes, when they have finished, just nod in acceptance and do not judge. Do not disagree immediately.
5. Don't interrupt.
2007-05-15 16:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Weerapat P. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to not talk its like impossible to talk and listen at the same time! look at people in the eye and nod and stuff to show you hear them. But I know sometimes it can be hard to not comment but you can always finish the sentences in your head, see how many u get right!
2007-05-15 17:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talkative people doesn't mean that they aren't good listeners or can't keep quite for a while. I know people who talk a lot, but when someone talks, they give a very patient hearing and keep quiet till they finish talking.
2016-05-19 16:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play a sport! Do something where you have to become mentally tough. Try not talking. Staying still. Calm. After a while it'll be like you're a freakin marine.
2007-05-15 16:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by eaglemvp99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking. Realize your interupting might cause you to miss something important. Also maybe you really are not completing the persons sentence instead infusing your own ideas and they just agree to shut you up.
2007-05-15 16:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Lily 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋