is it ok to cry?

Question

i usually never cry even when i need to (wich is alot) because i dont want my friends to see me cry. i dont know why i guess cause i like to help them out when they need help with something most of my friends think im happy 24-7 but truth is im usually really sad and i just want my friends to be happy and so i hold every thing in and when there isn't any room left i cry and dont stop till theres no more teers. is this ok or should i cry when i need to?

Answer 1

I think that your sweet for caring so much about your friends that you only want there happiness. However, it feels good when you know your friends care just as much for you. Not to mention it's not completely healthy to hold everything in all of the time...First of all, eventually, when you don't let everything out it takes over you, and you end up acting different sometimes you don't ever realize you are acting different. In addition, crying alone makes you more lonely and more aware of all the bad feelings inside. But breaking down in front of a true friend causes your friend to help you feel better which usually means that person will point out things that will alter your mind and you could actually feel better.

You don't have to share your feeling with everyone but maybe one person who you really trust and isn't going to go blabbing it to the world. Most of my friends think I'm happy 24/7 too...but my best friends realizes I'm human just like her.

I'll be totally honest...most friends prefer to see you happy all of the time even if you are faking it so that you pay more attention to them but it's not good for you. Another thing that helps me is writing it in my diary. It helps me analyze what I'm doing and putting things into perspective.

Hope you feel better and stop crying alone. :)

Answer 2

You are stressing big time! You say you don't cry when you 'need to'? Honey, you'd better. Let me tell you -there are several fold reasons that crying is good for the soul - 1) it expresses the hurt, pain or even joy that we have about something or someone. 2) It is an outward expression of an extreme emotion. 3 ) People always respond to others who cry - we need the comfort and association from others who can respond to our tears 4) It is a way to release pent up emotions that we often hold inside 5) Crying washes away the anxiety we experience in our heads, it clears the mind so to speak and we always feel better after a good cry. There is no way that you can be pretending to be happy and the 'friends' you say you have don't know this. Stop pretending and have yourself a good cry if you need to. You will feel so much better. Think of it as the rain that we must have to wash away the dust and dirt from the road, and the necessary relief the grass and flowers need in order to grow. You are a spirit and your spirit needs refreshing - tears can help you become refreshed.

Answer 3

You didn't mention why you want to cry but if you all of a sudden feel the need to cry without any apparent reason, then you need to see a psychiatrist.
If there is solid reasons for wanting to cry (like losing a loved one, losing a relationship, failing at school, etc.) then you can cry around your close friends and they can help you. There is no point to cry in the larger public like in the public square. If someone doesn't know you and you are crying in front of them, your cries are meaningless to them and all it does is to upset them.
So cry only in the presence of very close trusted friends. Otherwise, if you are too shy to do that, you can cry alone but later talk about it with your friends and let them know that you cried. That way you won't feel too lonely and you will get it out of your system.
Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Yes its ok to cry they say (doctors) its very healthy to cry it releases stress and anxiety. It also shows others that you have feelings and that your a sensitive women sho has a heart and wants to be respected and loved like everyone else in this world. So go on and have a good cry and dont be afraid to show it even if your a guy or a girl everyone has feelings even men do they just want to show they are strong and the truth is women like men that cry too cause it shows sensitivity.

Answer 5

I always recommend crying. Your friends will respect you that much more if you let them see the real you. Allow yourself to have emotions. It's great that you want to see your friends be happy but you also deserve to be happy.

Think of crying as a steam valve. It helps relieve the pressure that's building up inside you. It helps you stay sane. If you never show your true emotions, you'll never be truly happy. The more you cry, the less you'll need to. You'll have reduced the pressure you feel inside and then you'll be better able to handle the things that make you sad.

By crying when you feel like it, you'll also be giving a gift to your friends. I'll bet they're so appreciative that you're there for them and they'd like to give back. By showing them that you need their support sometimes, they'll feel like they are of more value to you. Let yourself cry. It's a healthy thing to do for yourself.

Answer 6

I know you like to be there for your friends, and they all expect you to be happy 24/7..that is not normal* Everyone in this world has rough days*..it's part of life...it's healthy to express your emotions whether you're sad (cry) , happy (laugh/smile) loved (glow)......also, start talking to your friends and open up with complete honesty* They will respect you more for doing so. YOu can still be there for them when they need you* to lift their spirits...but you also need to lean on them a bit more..it helps you grow as a person*
don't bottle things up inside and then have a crying fest on your own then try to push it away like nothing happend* That is definately not a healthy thing to do *~..Letting your feelings out and feeling like you can do so with your closests friends will make you be that much stronger within yourself, and for being stronger for your friends*
BestWishes*

Answer 7

Wow! You are really an Angel.
You just don't want your friends to worry about you. Crying is a necessary and healthy part of life. Of course, you should do your crying alone as much as you can. Crying in front of others can seem a little weird.

Answer 8

it's perfectly normal to cry. If you express how you feel more instead of putting up a front for your friends you won't have to do that anymore. That's really unhealthy. Some studies show that you can get serious disorders from being stressed out and holding things in. Express yourself. Tell people how you feel. If they are your real friends then they will be glad that you are openning up to them

Answer 9

That's fine with me i get that way in sad movies and books and stuff but if you want to stop just dont think of the bad things and rember all the good times. Well the good times make me cry sometimes only cause the're gone.

Answer 10

If crying when you just cant go on is the only time you cry, well, I, and I am ONLY speaking for me, think that this is not exactly healthy..... I am the same as you, but prob. a tad bit older.... I am 48..... after yrs of being like you, it has taken its toll on me emotionaly...... I have forgotten how to cry..... I get sad and sometimes a little depressed, and I could avoid that by letting my feelings out.... so PLEASE take the time to nuture YOU...... if you do not want your friends to see you cry, then find a private place just for YOU and let it all go....... God bless