I have met this girl 5 years ago and i have loved her ever since and i have loved her every single second of those 5 years. She is the first girl i ever saw and fell in love with and she will be the last. UNtil six months ago when i kept my distance because i wanted to concentrate on my education. ANd now a week ago i found out that she got engaged. ANd i feel really hurt and feel like i shouldnt have done that six months ago. Any advise?
2007-05-15 16:13:25 · 12 answers · asked by zizou z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should talk to her openly about your feelings and see what she says.
2007-05-15 16:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Zizou Z,
I think you definitely should tell her how you feel, if only to clear the air and give you closure if she doesn't feel the same. It's okay to feel the way you do. Five years is a long time to carry around feelings for someone you really like. Try not to blame yourself for wanting to concentrate on your education, because if her feelings toward you are not the the same as yours toward her, then your choice six months ago had no bearing on the situation.
Talk to her honestly and openly about your feelings for her, and ask her if there is interest on her end. If not, tell her that you appreciate her honesty and the opportunity to clear the air for you. Then wish her well on her engagement and enjoy the sweet success of a good education--and the good love that will come your way as you make your way through life. First and unrequited loves are often the hardest to get over, but they will pale in comparison to the one that really takes your heart.
Good luck.
2007-05-15 23:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to say it, but you snooze you lose! I'm not sure what your terms of agreement were when you decided to take time for school (which is commendable by the way) like if you both agreed she could date other people or what. The good news is she isn't married yet and there is a possibility if you try to re-connect with her she will be receptive, but there is also the chance she will continue her engagement to this other guy. My advice would be to contact her and tell her your thoughts and feelings b/c if you don't you might kick yourself later for not trying atleast. What's the worst that could happen at this point? You don't want to hear another, "you snooze you lose" so go for it! Just remember, if she chooses not to reconnect with you that there really are other fish in the sea! I always hated that saying, but it's true!
2007-05-15 23:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by porkchopsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did the right thing it better that you found out now then later. If she could find someone in six months and get engaged then she couldn't have love you at all. Have you taught how could she find a person and get engage all in six months.
2007-05-15 23:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me get this straight...... you met a girl 5 yrs ago, did nothing to let her know how you felt..... she is now engaged and you are hurting and regreting the wait ?? is that about it ?? sorry, but you put her on the back burner and left it to chance..... she moved on, met someone and you are OUT of the picture..... if she is engaged, then she must be in love.... leave it alone and move on..... I know it hurts, but she was not *the one* unless she feels the same about you as you do about her, which I guess she doesn't..... sorry..... God bless
2007-05-15 23:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason. She was only meant to bless your life, by allowing you to have such strong emotions. We tend to go through life "lifeless" and every so often if we are lucky enough. We really so how much love the person has for you and vice versa. Good luck
2007-05-15 23:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear that this happened. apparently, you're hurting.
if you and your girl have been apart for a while and moved on, then your relationship is probably not meant to be.
i realize that sometimes, we have to choose between our education and a relationship.
the only advice i have is A) you can get in touch with her and ask her if she really wants to marry this guy, or B) move on.
take care of you. this can't be easy. hug
2007-05-15 23:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time you brakeup with someone you feel like it is the end of the world
She was your first love, it does not mean she was the one for you
It has nothing to do with you keeping your distance for a while.
Eventually you'll find someone else
2007-05-15 23:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by annelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you during this time of pain. You may not believe it now but if she wasn't happy with you, your marriage to her would be miserable.
It will be hard but you need to move on so you can find a partner who will love you even during the lean times.
2007-05-15 23:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Just ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life. She is engaged now, so you can't have her. Takes time to heal, but get over it. When you are fully over it, then seek another. It is easy to say this, but hard to do it. But, that's just the plain ugly truth of the matter.
2007-05-15 23:17:56 · answer #10 · answered by sopcwebservant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋