my son keep arguing that he should stay out til midnite i say 9pm what is an ok time he's 16 yrs.?

Answer 1

You are the parent and he is 16. So YOU set the rules not him. He may think it sucks but that is life. If you say 9pm then guess what it is 9pm. If you say 6pm then it is 6pm.

Now you don't have to be totally tough. If he is very resposible and you know what he is doing at that time of night then making it a couple hours later may not be a problem. However, only you know your son and his friends. You still have to ask yourself what is a 16 year old wanting to do at midnight?

Answer 2

A 16 yr old, 9pm during the week, school night or not (mom and dad have to get up the next morning for work.) On weekends 11pm, especially if he has the car. That was the rule I had growing up, and the rule my kids will have when they get to that age (11 and 7 right now.) I always had a much earlier curfew than my friends did and I hated it. Looking back I was the only one who didn't get into tons of trouble. Every one of my friends that stayed out until midnite or later all got into trouble at least once, some way more. When I got older and was in college the curfew moved to 1am, then 2 am when I was going to graduate (22 yr old). Basically the old rule stands, as long as you live in my house...

Answer 3

Rules that other parents use for their kids doesn't necessarely mean will fit your lifestyle with your kids.

When I was 16 (I had a job) and my parents trusted me and only told me once that I would be responsible for my own actions. On the weekdays I'd be home at 8pm, sometimes 11pm... on the weekends, I'd get home around midnight, other times at 3AM. Regardless, they ALWAYS wanted me to come home, and never spend the night anywhere else, and I always did; but they trusted me.

So in saying all that, I never got in trouble with the law, I finished school and got to enjoy work, the party life and everything in between. 10 Years later I turned out to be a successful person even without all these "rules" and "curfews". Sometimes you gotta let the kids run into the wild before they fully mature, otherwise when they turn 18 they are so anxious to leave and end up screwein for the next few years of their lives...

SOOOOOO..... give him a break, let him out some more and let him prove to you that's dependable and trusted... if you don't trust him at this point, then you'll always have that in the back of your mind regardless of what he does... good luck!

Answer 4

My son is 17 years of age. I am a single parent. His curfew time is 8pm during week days. We attend Wednesday nite Bible study together, on that nite he is home around 6pm.
I told him if he didn't follow the rules, I would have a youth correctional officer put him on house arrest. He did not like that idea. There was some trouble in the home at first, due to the divorce. I took in consideration that he was going through some tough times as well. But I did not let up on him. I loved him and prayed for him. You do the same. Love will bring him in where nothing else can. God Bless

Answer 5

9 is good for school nights but I say midnight is good for weekends...why not? He is 16 and if you trust him, why not? At 16 I didn't even have a curfew as long as I called home and let them know what I was doing and what time I'd be home and I never got into any serious trouble. I was a very trusted teenager though because I was honest and didn't really do anything horrible to lose the trust.

Answer 6

I agree with some of the others...9 for school nights and 11 on the weekends. But you can negotiate the time depending on his plans and perhaps let him stay out till 11 on occassions. Has he followed the current curfew so far? If he breaks curfew you can switch back to 9. This is close to how it was when I was a teen, but my parents always knew my specific plans and I certainly didn't go out every night or even every weekend.

Answer 7

9pm is perfect. Maybe 10 on the weekend with the exception of Prom or something of that nature. This is for the best- even if your son is a good person, there's no telling who else is doing what late at night. He'll be safer that way.

Answer 8

I would let my kids stay out till 12 one night a weekend, but make sure they are not out causing trouble. I was 16 once and I had a 12 o clock curfew and was never in trouble I actually respected my parents because they trusted me so much.

Answer 9

For a week night 9 . For the weekend 11.

Answer 10

you need to ask your son what there is for a 16 year old kid to do after 11. when my kids were teens during the week it was 9, but the weekends it was 11. only the prom or other special occasion were they allowed to be out later than that.