Dealing with fidelity?

Question

I have had a high-school sweetheart, on-off relationship for almost 3 years now. I feel very much in love, and perfectly content with my girlfriend.

But I have begun having problems being monogamous, when I want to be. I don't want to cheat on my girlfriend, however I have ex's asking for more and cannot resist considering them.

I've tried finding help on infidelity and polyamorous relationships but everything seems inclined towards support them (unless its religious-based... I'm atheistic).

I can't seem to just ignore these temptations but I cannot give in to them....
So,
Any advice/experiences/help you can give? Is there anyway to survive this?
I feel I should discuss this with my girlfriend, should I?

Please dont answer with "just dont because its immoral" because the male instinct overrides that in a second, please give helpful advice/experiences.

Answer 1

if you were "very much in love, and perfectly content with my girlfriend." you wouldnt even consider cheating. if your exs are causing you that much stress you shouldnt be around them. if your having this much trouble, maybe you should take a break from your girlfriend until you get your act together.

Answer 2

I really can relate to this. I have been married for two years and with him for 4. I love him, he loves me, blah blah blah and we have gone so far as to make a promise to each other to tell one another and break up before we do something we'll regret. All this time I have been obliviously happy and satisfied up until recently. It's an animalistic reaction, one we are willing to act on. In a relationship with another we lose a little of that and the desire for the "belly fire" is strong and almost overpowering. Fortunately we are made to out think our instinct. Maybe it's time to spice things up in the bedroom and your love life. Good luck and HAVE FUN!!!

Answer 3

if you REALLY love your girlfriend, then dont see the ex, talk to the ex, ect... you Want to cheat- or you wouldnt