My boyfriend and I have been on and off for 3 1/2 years and have fought throught alot. We both seem to have done alot of growing and maturing. I told him that im dating to find my husband and he said he's ready to settle down. He also said that he prayed about it and asked for a sign and that me coming back into his life he takes as a sign that im his one. Everyone around me doesnt really know him except my brother who after praying thinks he's a good guy while everyone else is saying no. I am inlove with him and really want him to be the one but am extremely afraid that he isnt and am scared that we'll hit a big rock and he'll wanna split.
2007-05-15 14:54:07 · 6 answers · asked by Gettysburg Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you aren't sure, continue to date. If the two of you can be on all the time and agree to disagree for a few years, then it might be a good indication. It you have your doubts, RUN! The wait is hard but in the end the reward is so much sweeter. Remember to live and have fun first. When you get older the last thing you want is to regret not doing all those things when you could have.
2007-05-15 15:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by J S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a few suggestions.
perhaps you can sit down and write down things about yourself. what you want out of life.. what your goals might be.
how would you expect to handle finances? who is paying the bills? would you each put a certain amount toward bills? what about savings? and investements...
when do you want children? never? in 10 years? how many kids do you want? how do you expect to raise them?
what are your morals? what are your values?
what do you like about the boyfriend? what do you dislike? can you "live with" or overlook his character flaws forever?
now have a discussion with your boyfriend about all of this. do you agree on most things? if not, can you compromise and work things out between the two of you?
you can't live on love alone. people really need to talk about what they want from life, and how they want to live before they get married....
i hope things work out in your best interest! take care of YOU.
2007-05-15 15:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....this is why you are supposed to test drive a variety of hot RODS before you get married.
That way you know what you like and you don't like....at least according the the wemen.
2007-05-15 14:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a time alone to think what you really want in life and think what your expectation from him and his expectation from you are good to combine,because problem come from small but fundamental things,so start by think about it first then decide
2007-05-15 15:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by uli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Life" is a long long time. When you say "you are in love with him", my question is" Does he give you what you want?"
2007-05-15 14:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. see what happens .looks like hes the one for you
2007-05-15 14:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋