im 21 and he is THE best guy anybody could ever get....
im serious... hes gorgeous, well educated, funny, desired by ANY woman who lays eyes on him, and he is a respectful, peaceful, VERY faithful guy...
AND... he adores me and everything about me,..
weve been going out for 3 years and he wants to get married... he is 29...
but my friends are going crazy going to every party, meeting and flirting with random guys, traveling together and having fun... i kind of want a little of that...
but i know id have to give in to my relationship...
SHOULD i risk him or does this "crazy partying phase" stop and i wont regret it?
2007-05-15 14:49:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not give up this guy for a little "fun"! If you love him the way he obviously loves you, you would be crazy to let that go! If you are not in love with him and do not want the same things out of life then move on. If you give him up for "fun" you will wake up one day and wander how you got where you are and he will not be there for you. If he is as great as you say then he will be taken with someone that will love him back. I guarantee most of your friends would rather be where you are instead of where they are. You should weigh this out greatly! Good Luck.
2007-05-15 14:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by tcconssw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you truly love him and he truly is all that you say he is, you will regret it when you get older if you leave him for partying.
Believe me, partying isn't all that it is cracked up to be. To have the security and knowing that you have a great man in your life for your future is SO much more valuable than partying now. That's the thing, the partying only is for now, it doesn't give you anything for your future.
Why don't you do some fun travels with your man? Why don't you go out together and have some fun. Just cuz you are "attached" doesn't mean the fun is over. You can still have friends and have fun -- just be sure that you stay faithful.
It is just my opinion, but if I were back at that age and had what you say you have, there would be no question. I would absolutely keep the guy!!!
2007-05-15 21:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by animal lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 21 and this presents a dilemma. On the one hand there is an irresistable urge to party and indulge the realm of raw experience. On the other, there is the sober realization that such "experience" is only worth so much. Yours is an existential question: If you want to be an exemplar of devotion and faith, then stay with your man. If you'd rather be the epitome of a "free spirit" then taste life with a devil-may-care attitude. I used to deliver newspapers for the elderly, some of whom had been married for 65 years. 65 years!!!! I am 30 and will never live long enough to be married that long. Think about it.
2007-05-15 22:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a decision and go with it. Either way you're going to wonder.
Partying is STOOPID! Why have a life long relationship when you can have sex and booze tonight? Besides, if you get aids, you won't have long for regrets. Too long, maybe, but what the heck. The party was DECENT!
Dump the dude and party on!
2007-05-15 21:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by blackfangz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You definitely don't want to lose this guy. Period. But does that mean you can't go out with your friends at all? Could you possibly compromise, travel with your friends and go to parties without going completely crazy? Something to think about.
2007-05-15 22:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in your shoes. Why not invite him to party with you? It can be just as fun to "pretend" to be strangers and meet up at a party, then go home together. you can have the best of both world so you dont have to live with any regrets.
2007-05-15 21:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not sure that your ready to settle down then don't get married your wasting both his and your time and if he wants to get married and you don't let him go so that he can find someone who wants the same thing as him he's 29 he's already sowed his wild oats so to speak and wants start his family before he gets to old to enjoy it.do both of you a favor and come to a decision and be prepared to live with what ever one you make.
2007-05-16 02:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to ask yourself Are you IN love with him not just love him some but totally in love with him...if not then no marriage....if you are then you'll end up regreting letting him go just to go party....maybe talk to him about how you feel...you can still have girls night out but you go home to your husband and noone else....just do some soul searching...and then follow your heart :) Good Luck!
2007-05-15 21:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by grdnangel0209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do u want? A small part of you want to give it up? I think you'll regret not giving it up no matter because all of your friends are always talking about it. But this is the guy of your dreams!!!!! Marry him!!!!!!!
2007-05-15 21:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not ready for i do's.Honey if he is all that,why would you just throw it all away,Look at it this way if you are with this one guy that is every thing,You no you are not going to catch anything.Your friends well lets put it this way.If you lay with a dog,your going to get up with fleas.WHY THROW A GOOD THING AWAY FOR FLEAS.
2007-05-15 21:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by rebecca_autry2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋