i got married the first time at the age of 19 my first husband was a hott head and we got a divorce worst pain i ever experienced at such a young age i was only 21 then i had a son to a man i spent 11 years with didnt get married he wasnt the one then i met a nice guy dated him for 2 years and got married we each had a son and now im seperated the 2cnd time took me a long time to redo it god em i picking the wrong men i em a very nice and sweet person and this husband also had a hott temper any advice ty jewels
2007-05-15 14:27:08 · 7 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, most of the folks say to stop picking hot-tempered men, and they could be right, or... you could drive them to it.
Don't know enough about you to tell you anything.
2007-05-15 14:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been divorced 13 years after being married at a young age also. did you and your current husband go to a pre-marital counselor before you decided to get married? i dated a man last year and he wanted us to get engaged and married a few months later. he was twice divorced, i was divorced once. i told him we had 3 bad marriages between us so we needed to go to a counselor to make sure we were doing all the right things to have a successful marriage. very glad i did as the counselor found out he had a lot of anger from his past and i would not have found this out were it not for the counselor we saw together. i think the hot headed men see women like us as sweet and able to take their temper and are attracted to us. my ex had a temper also and we are used to that behavior so we are not unattracted to them. i would suggest counseling immediately for you both in order to save your marriage. i wish you the best thru all this. good luck!
2007-05-15 21:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by s. m. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are attracted to the same types of character. maybe you feel this is all you are worth or deserve. try spending some time to think about where you are in life and think what it is in a relationship you really want then STOP looking. If you keep looking you will subconsciously seek that previous kind.
2007-05-15 21:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by jaml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you keep falling for the ones that are angry....Why wasn't the father of your son good enough? You obviously knew he had anger problems and still opted to marry him and put you and your son in a bad place. Marriage can be wonderful , but it isn't easy.......you have to compromise and be pliable. Rethink who you are attracted to.
2007-05-15 21:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your track record should teach you something about marriage....its just overated and not worth it in the long run.
I wish I could become unmarried without it costing me everything and the kids.
2007-05-15 21:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
all you have to do is to find a good one. lots of them all over. stop picking the bad ones. you'll find the man in your life soon. keep looking
2007-05-15 21:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop picking hot tempered men
2007-05-15 21:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋