I am a married man but have fallen madly in love with another lady?

Question

She makes my heart melt her voice is like an angel and she is single.
Should I say something or just ignore my feelings???



PS I am probably not the only one in love with Kylie Minogue..

Answer 1

He he, That's cute. I always tell my husband I'm gonna marry Doug Heffernan from "King of Queens." I love that guy, he's funny, he's caring, and he's cute in a big fluffy teddy bear kinda way. My husband just thinks I'm retarded though. He says Doug is gross.(I think he's really just jealous though) LOL!

Answer 2

Having a baby coming into the world can be stressful. While thinking on how to deal with this it's possible to lose touch with your feelings because you are overwhelmed. When you started chatting with a woman on the net it created a fantasy escape. If you ever loved your wife cut off all contact with this other woman. Deal with your current reality. Come up with plan for dealing with this new baby, talk to your wife if deep down you're afraid, you'll be a lousy provider or parent tell her. You two need to support each other. Don't assume that you have no feelings for your wife, assume that you are overloaded with feelings. It can be scary, especially if this is your first marriage or child. It's common to try to work the problem alone because you don't want to upset your wife or runaway because the problem seems too big. The more you sit on these feelings the further you will draw away from her. Assume that your wife loves you so much that she created a little life that's part you and part her and has a life full of potential. BIG SCARY SH--! But it's also FANTASTIC!! If you wade through the big scary you'll get to the fantastic but you have to do it TOGETHER!

Answer 3

I think you should listen to your heart and go with it. You married a woman who you wanted to be your life partner and that you wanted to grow old with. The woman you married to is support to be your best friend and someone that you can tell anything to and support you through life’s pro's and con's. If suddenly you meet someone else that is not you’re WIFE and now you think you made a wrong decision by marring her, I think you should take a step back and look at your relationship with your wife and decide right away if you are or ever were happy with her. There is always someone out there in this world that is the BBD = bigger better deal. What happens if you meet someone else in the future weather you're with your wife or this new woman and you feel the same thing about the new girl. Be with who makes you happy but I for one think that if you're thinking about being with someone else while you're married you either need to tell your wife that you're not happy with the relationship and figure out how you can make it work with her again or decide to leave her and move on to someone that will make you happy. Life is too short to be unhappy. On the other hand, if you’re going to leave your wife for another girl only, be careful that this other girl does not leave you like you left your wife. What goes around comes around. But, again, life is too short to always hold back. I hope you do not have any children with your wife, too. If you do, you better think really long and hard before doing anything because divorce can really have a major impact on children and if they find out in the future that you left mommy for another girl you were "dating" or "crushing" on the side, you could lose the trust of your own children in the future. Good luck and I really hope everything works out for you!

Answer 4

Your love is where your heart is. If you put all your love into your wife then you wont have the time to fall in love with some other woman. If you treat your wife like the first time you met and remember all the things that gave you butterfly feelings in the first place, then every day can be like the beginning =)

Answer 5

It really depends on how long you have felt this way. If it's not very long, then let it go and see if you still feel like this in a few months or so. If it's been a while, you should talk to this lady about it to see if she feels the same way. If not, then let it go. If so, then tell your wife and act on the situation in a way you feel will satisfy you the most.

Answer 6

So you are saying you are in love with Kylie Minogue? Well, hey, good luck with that. Let me know what your wife says when you tell her.

Answer 7

I think you need to get over it and focus on your wife before she is on here asking people what to do because her husband is obsessed with Kylie Minogue and what she should do.

Answer 8

This is called a crush. It happens to many people during their lives. It doesn't mean you are not capable of rejecting those feelings. You only have to remove yourself from proximity to her. If you work with her, you only have to choose not to be close to her or alone with her. It is never really necessary to put yourself in a situation that might compromise your marriage. If you are in a position to, have little or nothing to do with her. Your "madly in love" feelings will subside shortly. You could choose to have an affair thinking you are able to handle it, but you risk your dignity in doing so. A man of integrity stays faithful and puts away childish notions of "madly in love" in favor of commitment, fidelity, and companionship. You promised to be faithful, how important is it to you to look into yourself knowing you have kept true to your word?

Answer 9

Are you ready to leave your wife? If that question is no then ignore your feelings! Don't act on anything you've just said.

If you are then leave her and let the woman know. But allow me to say this:

The devil used to be an angel too! Make sure you are doing the right thing. God never tempts us and he doesn't favor adultery so I couldn't imagine him sending an angel to ruin your marriage!!!

Answer 10

If its Kylie Minogue, go ahead! Crush all you want, buddy, cause she isn't going to be with you anytime soon. If its reality? Well, think this through...is it worth losing your wife?