What do you do about cheap shots when someone tries to digg at you?

Question

Because they have nothing better to do and they are jealous of you, how do you handle that?

"Try "your village called, they want their idiot back" or something similar, and when she stares back at you, follow up with my favorite :

"If you were just a little bit smarter, you'd realize I just insulted you"

That should do the trick lol. Good luck, hope this was helpful."

How did you learn to insult so good? LOL

You must have to fight a lot of people you think are idiots, the only thing wrong with that and having to learn all this is it generally makes you look like an even bigger idiot then them.

I would rather just point the facts at them and then that isn't enough because like you said they are idiots and what do you do with that?

"If someone says something insulting to you, learn from it to be more careful not to cause anyone else pain with words. Learn from it to spread the consciousness that it is wrong to use one's power of speech to cause suffering to others.

“...attacks generally come from those who never can be found to have done as much as you or be the person that you are, that is why they love to attack them for it. What disgusts me about this is that when you seem to be doing something is just when they want to attack you the worst. They always seem to lie and distort so blatantly and carelessly that you can't get a word in edgewise.

Answer 1

This advice has always helped me. When you feel insulted, "consider the source". Their remarks reflect more of themselves than of you.

Answer 2

If you are in a debate or discussion of some sort, merely say "That's fine, but...." and repeat your last point. If repeating that three times doesn't work (have patience, three times is enough for many people) then simply declare it "over", and stop talking.

Cheap shots depend on feedback, whether you have a snappy comeback, or just get distracted or angry. If you don't supply any feedback, then the other person starts to look stupid, and you start to look like you are in control. If two people are tugging on a rope, the one who lets go last looks dumb.

Sometimes, the cheap shots have no context and just come out of nowhere, and this applies even more. Again, if you have nothing worthwhile to say in return, then just say nothing. Stay cool, no reaction makes you in control.

These people who are getting to you don't care if you hurt. Teaching them that it's wrong is a noble goal, but it won't work unless they care, and they won't care if they don't lose. If you hold your own, they lose and get embarrassed, and they have to find a nicer way to talk to people. People are best left learning their own lessons.

Answer 3

First you must find out what makes this person (hater) tick. Find out what that is and you're in the game. But some people are so insecure, which is the very reason why they are hating on you, that just by ignoring or giving them a clueless look and saying "grow up" or "get a real life" can make them so mad. Just simple things like this can really get a person thinking through the day.But all you have to do to really to get to them is continue to be yourself. Furthermore, don't worry about what other people say. Just think what are they actually doing for you and are they really going to play a major part in you future.

Answer 4

Have a whole arsenal of your own ready!

When a bully punches you, punch em back HARDER!

But only fire as many shots as he/she does. Each time they let one loose, fire back harder. As you up the stakes, they will soon reach their pain threshold and stop.

You'll be amazed at how you stop being a target once you fight back. Go to an "insult" site if you have to.

Try "your village called, they want their idiot back" or something similar, and when she stares back at you, follow up with my favorite :

"If you were just a little bit smarter, you'd realize I just insulted you"

That should do the trick lol. Good luck, hope this was helpful.

Answer 5

I have found that, the biggest reasons someone takes pot shots or insults someone else is this, they are insecure or have low self-esteem or they like you and don't know how to tell the person of their affections. But then there is always that one person who is just mean spirited and cruel and likes to hurt other people. No matter the reason, it is the wrong thing to do. And to those mean spirited and cruel people, tell them that you refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Tell them in a firm, but friendly voice that you don't like to play that way. If they continue, avoid them if possible. But if you are in a position that you can't avoid them then you can either continue to ignore them or embarrass them so good that they want to avoid you. If they persist always have a snappy comeback so that the attention is turned on them.

Answer 7

If you think that you are a banana, and they try to dig at a banana, then you will be insulted. If you know that you are actually an apple, then even though they are trying to dig at you, its not going to insult you at all because you know that you are not a banana.

The fruits i chose to use here are not very meaningful - they were arbitrarily picked.

Answer 8

I always answer with, is that the best you got? or I have heard that one before. I usually tell them they will out grow this someday, usually with a laugh. Shows how further you are in life compared to them. Those type of people usually repeat themselves, and in this world, it gets old fast.

Answer 9

Tell them how sorry you feel for them that they have to be that way,maybe even consider asking if there is any way you can help them. belittle them but be care full people get very upset sometimes, the more sin-sear the greater the results.

Answer 10

Retaliating only escalates.

I usually ask "have I offended you?" If they respond "no", just state that "whenever someone is sarcastic to me, I take it mean that they are angry with me for something."

You aren't backing down and you are calling them on what I would call "snipper attacks" against you. They quickly lose their nerve to take person and public shots at you.

And, you retain your dignity and respect for yourself and others.