I love my boyfriend and I'm not technically suspossed to be with him and I think the only way to get my point across is to just marry him, and I'm only 18 right now... any suggestions?
2007-05-15 12:45:57 · 8 answers · asked by frogg_junior 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why arent you technically supposed to be with him?
2007-05-15 12:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get married for any other reason than the ones listed below, then your getting a divorce!
LOVE - you both know you could never be apart and you are making a committment to spend the rest of your lives. Did you read that correctly: THE REST OF YOUR LIVES, TILL DEATH DO YOU PART. You have been together for about 3-5 years and you know everything there is to know about each other mentally, emotionally and physically. Your age is in the late 20's or early 30's.
Well, if you think your going to get married, to get your point across at the incredible immature age of 18, then your getting a divorce, probably soon after. To make the divorce easier - DO NOT GET PREGNANT! You will only be another single mother with no money and you and your baby will suffer, incredibly.
My real suggestions are, don't even think of marriage. Why the hell would you want to rush into marriage? Your life will change incredibly and at the age you are, you and your boyfriend will feel trapped. That's when the trouble begins. You have too much to still learn about life and about love. Why don't you just enjoy life, sit back and RELAX! Your boyfriend is not going anywhere and if he does, it will be because you met someone better. You will laugh at the fact that you dated him at one time. DO NOT GET MARRIED!
2007-05-15 20:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 and you think you are? No way are you even remotely ready for the pressures of marriage. Never use marriage to make any kind of point to anyone. This marriage is doomedbefore it could ever begin if you "think" this way. Better wait a few years andthen see. If this guy wont wait for you then hes not worth it. Dont be in such a hurry to make such a long lasting legal decision as its not easy to get out of if it doesnt work out. Enjoy life for a few years and have some fun and laughs before settling down with someone. Think long and hard about this before making any decisions youll later regret. Good luck
2007-05-15 20:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...if you can make it a couple years and live together first, then go for it!!!! You cant rush a relationship or it will end badly! Just give it time. There are other ways to tell him you love him. My husband and I were together for 4 years and lived together for 3 of them before we got married, its better to be sure! Don't take marriage lightly! Its a very serious step and you need to be 100% sure! The answer to your question is in the question title, "I THINK I'm ready to tie the knot", wait til you KNOW you are ready!
2007-05-15 20:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry at 18, live a little first. Life is too short not to live it to the fullest. Most marriages end in divorce if both people are too young. Don't become a statistic. Why aren't you technically supposed to be with him?
2007-05-15 19:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes more than marriage to make someone technically yous!! Marraige is not a fix all!! Marriage is journey and not a fix all. I think you have a lot of life to live and as you you begin to make decision about life and experience different things and explores careers, cultures and your religious and political beliefs your path wil lead you to marriage but not trying to yechnically possess someone!! four years from know you will be trying to leave this same guy if not earlier!!
2007-05-15 19:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're aren't even sure you want to marry this guy. You also seem to be trying to rebel against your parents by marrying someone you're not supposed to be with. This doesn't really seem like a good way to start a marriage. You are behaving in that annoying 18 yr old way where you are trying to prove you're an adult.
2007-05-15 19:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Cowbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to do it because you love him.Sounds like you want to prove to your parents that your grown.Your going about it the wrong way.
2007-05-15 20:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋