**KIND OF LONG, BUT PLEASE READ ALL** Okay, my fiance and I are getting married on June 21st, 2007. Reason; we have always wanted a summer wedding. We have a really nice house. Each of our four children have their own rooms. We have rooms to spare, and a nice backyard and frontyard. My point is, we are in a really stable living situation. We were considering adopting one more child, but we're not sure. We have two biological twins and two adopted kiddies. My question to you is, would 5 kids be too many? I mean, once again, we live in a great area and we have a lovely home. We both make a nice amount of money and Tristan and I...well, we have been together since we were teenagers. What do you think? Please do not be really nasty. Just be honest =)
2007-05-15 12:12:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
To the one who asked, yes, Tristan is considering as well. This will be a mutual decision. We're just looking for input. And we are getting married!!!
2007-05-15 12:28:50 · update #1
I said that we have spare rooms. So, we have more than one room to use. :D We have many rooms.
2007-05-15 12:30:01 · update #2
I think that no one can tell you what to do we can only offer our opinion, you have to do what's in your heart. From what I have read I think that it would be a good idea for you because I can tell that you really want it. You sound like a nice, loving, financially stable family that has a lot of love to give. Kudos to you and your family. You have an opportunity to share your love with another child that may not be as fortunate to experience the kind of loving home that you can provide. God bless!
2007-05-15 12:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by keshia0978 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have 4, 5 doesn't seem like it would be any more trouble. If you are secure financially why not. The only thing I can say is do you have the time? Love and money are not enough. I had a neighbor with 7 children. They LOVED their children and were financially secure BUT they didn't spend anytime with them except in the evening to pray. The parents did their own thing while the older ones looked after the younger ones. Those kids were always over at my house because they wanted attention (like I said they had love at home just not quality time).
2007-05-15 12:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by judybug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be too many. As long as you know that financially you can manage and you are prepared for unexpected expenses and of course college. It's great that you want to adopt, it sounds like you have it together. Maybe you could even adopt a set of siblings that doesn't want to be broken up, then you could have 2 more kids. There are people out there who keep adopting kids, and end up with 20 or more, and it's a good thing. So many kids need good homes, I say there is nothing wrong with having 5 kids.
2007-05-15 12:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want more kids and have the room and have the time to give to each child you should adopt. However:
Before you adopt a child you should wait until after the wedding. Regardless of how long you have known your mate, the actual marriage usually has a impact on the couple and the family.
Also:
First talk to the other children and get their opinions.
How old are your children? How old is the child you are planning on adopting. What impact will this child have on your family, your spouse, your children. How old will you be when the child reaches his/her teens years?
Does your future husband also want addition children? Or is he unsure.
You should seriously consider all scenarios before adopting.
2007-05-15 12:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by lostinchicago 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel that five kids is right for you then it is. If both you and your partner feel that it is time and you both feel that you can provide a child with a loving home then by all means do so. I think that adoptation is so great there are some many children who would love to have what you have already provided for your other children. Dont let anyone talk you out of what you feel ready for. Good Luck!
2007-05-15 12:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great if you want to do this. I don't think that 5 is too many if you have enough time and money for all of the children. I am 1 out of 5. We were a combined family as well. I enjoyed having a brother and 3 sisters. There was of course never a dull moment =) Go for it if that is what you guys really want, more power to you!
2007-05-15 12:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can really handle all of the 5 children then go for it.I don't think thats to much but listen hun after you have 5 kids you will want more you should really follow your heart and do what you want and think is right. Shouldn't you use the spare bedroom for a guest bedroom? if you are having one than good luck.
2007-05-15 12:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by moo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I am going to first give you a hand for wanting to take care of a child that someone else did not want we need more people like you in the world. You guys will be ok just pray and trust in god and you will make it. I think that you guys have a lot of heart and if you have made it this far there is nothing you cant get through if you need someone to talk to email me @ ethorntonbaby@yahoo.com I am here 4 you in all ways.
2007-05-15 12:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by candydrops 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a beautiful family. If you have 4 children, you can certainly handle one more, especially since you seem financially secure. The important factor, which only you can answer is, can you devote the necessary time needed to rear another child? If your answer is yes, and you can afford another child... I say go for it!
Good Luck.
2007-05-15 12:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Don't Think 5 Kids Is Too Many As Long As You Can Afford Them!!!
Good For You & Have Fun Trying!!!
2007-05-15 12:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by Tink's Mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋