Men: Do you have emotions?

Question

See I'm totallyyy confused. Okay so SOME men have issues with emotion, but seriously some people just don't get it when I'm upset/angry/happy..it's like your emotionless, I've never seen a man cry EVER, that's not good. We all need to have a good old cry now and again!! Help me out, Let me pick your brains to try and find the answer please, dang you men really do do my head in sometimes =]

Answer 1

Men do have emotions. They are just not as free to express them the way women are. Anger is the only emotion society lets men express. That doesn't mean they don't have them.

Answer 2

Yes we have emotions. No, we will hardly ever talk about them, or cry. We are raised to believe that men don't show emotion, that it is weak to do so. It is rare that a man will talk about emotions like a woman can. You see, women are thinkers and talkers, men are all about actions. Tell us the problem, and we want to fix it. Don't tell us how the problem makes you feel, we have no idea what that means. It is just the different way our brains function and the purpose that they were made this way. A man has to be strong, to face the world and provide for his woman and or his family. Remember, we used to have to go out and hunt down and kill the meal you would prepare for the family. We were not designed to feel sorry for the furry little creature that we are about to eat to survive. Yeah, I'm a little old fashioned, but that is the way we were designed, thousands of years ago. We can't help it, and neither can you.

Answer 3

Well. I'm big into astrology and attribute many of human's emotions to the stars. I know, that sounds nutty, but I'm a pisces and naturally we are very imaginative, creative, and most certainly emotional people. :-p

That said, I'm rather closed off in front of people, I don't like or can't deal with. People perceive me as somewhat apathetic, however, I can guarantee you that is not the case. personally, I'm a very sensitive person who has many inner demons inside which would attribute to many of my emotions ranging from happiness to anger and even the most common ones of saddness and despair. For me, it's always been like this.

I'm sure that if something happened to my parents or my dog or anyone that I generally love and care about in my life, I would be a wreck and others would see it. It's not so much that men has issues emotion - we are humans afterall - however, we don't show it as much because it doesn't seem our place. Yet, for many of us, especially me, emotion is a very personal thing.

Just a theory.

Answer 4

We have feelings, although they are often not as strong.

What helped me most with women was the audio-book: MEN ARE FROM MARS WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. Get the audio version because the narrator's nasally voice is a riot.

And if I may, while we're all here: Men are like PCs without the extra RAM. So we can only run 2 or 3 many programs at once, or you get the blue screen - which is the man equivalent of "F this sh!t, I'm gonna sit down and have a beer." And the more programs going at the same time, the slower they run. Which is why you have to write stuff down for us AND why it has to be very clear and specific - otherwise it's like trying to run a Mac program on and IBM - it just won't work.

And I have cried - I cried during the movie 2010 when Dr. Chandra abandoned HAL. I cried during MAD ABOUT YOU when Jamie had her baby girl. And I cried at the end of SCHIINDLER'S LIST when Schindler was crying because he might have saved a few more people but didn't only because he hadn't thought of how to bribe the officers - he did so much yet I felt his pain.

Answer 5

Oh PLEASE! If you have never seen a man cry then you haven't taken him to see a chick flick. Just kidding. Yes real men do cry. We get stressed just like you, only we handle it a little different. We sometimes just explode. Some men will cry in a minute , others take a long time to get to that point. It can be seen as a sign of weakness in a man, but I don't see it that way. If you can get me to cry, it just means that you have gotten me so involved with you mentally and emotionally that I care deeply about what is going on. So if others say they don't cry, maybe they do things different that I do.

Answer 6

It's culture.In most cultures men are taught from being very young that it's bad to cry etc.

This is changing nowadays and many men are more willing to show their feelings nowadays.Maybe you just know the wrong men.

There are still men-especially older guys-who think that showing or talking about your feelings means your weak or gay.

I am neither and I've always thought that was BS.If I'm unhappy and I feel like crying I do.It just depends on the individual and their age I guess.

Answer 7

Men do have emotions but through social interaction many have learned to repress them in order to be “a man”. Men, unlike women, are not taught to be as perceptive to cue's that indicate when someone is upset, unhappy etc this is where you get the familiar incident when men cannot understand women's seemingly “irrational” behavior. The reason why I think its a learned thing rather than genetic, is that men can learn to be more in touch with their emotions and that of others, this is often the case when men work in care.

Answer 8

YES, we have emotions. Of course we can't EVER show them, because time and time again, an emotional man has proven unsuccessful when it comes to attracting women. You women SAY you want men who are in touch with their emotions as often as anyone else says "I like breathing", but whenever you finally meet a guy who's not afraid of telling the world how he really feels, you think he's either gay or a complete p*ssy. You go for the jerks and the @ssholes who show no emotion other than delight at tormenting others with your stupid "I can change him! <:)" mentality because he's soooooooo dreamy. Meanwhile all the guys who get frsutrated because they're not afraid of being emotionally honest but DON'T get the women who want emotional men eventually go nuts and go on mass killing sprees.

Is that a sufficient enough answer for you?

Answer 9

Well, I cry, but I do it in private. Do men have emotions. Come on! What kind of guys have you been hangin' with? Cardboard cut outs?
I play every key on the piano!
Send me a note if you want.

Answer 10

last time i checked i did. There seems to be some sort of unspoken word that if men show emotions (especially around or toward other men) they are less masculine, gay, or a *****. but thats all bullshit, emotion is human, not gender specific