Have been wanting a baby....?

Question

I am 21 years Old, I have been wating a baby ever since i was a child, I have babysat for years and Taken many child development classes in highschool (graduated in 03 ) and am currently taking child development classes in college.
I know the demands of a newborn and am sure that i can handle it. I am in a stable relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years, We are both wanting a child.
I know 21 years is young and I am sure i dont know EVERYTHING i need to know to give excellent care to a child but was wondering if anyone had some advise or thoughts on the matter.
I have already tired getting a puppy to ease my baby needs, she is a 6month old border collie who is very lovable but im still looking for more.....


Please do not respond if your going to say something rude, If you dont agree thats fine just find a nice way to say so. I know many people probably wont agree with me and thats fine, I just wanted some imput on the situation.

I know a baby and a puppy are not the same, I was just saying a got the puppy to ease my wanting a baby.
I am not a full time college student I work full time and go to college one night a week, thease classes are just for information & pure joy of going :)

FYI we do have a savings account, im almost positive it will pay for most of the first year :)

FYI we do have a savings account, im almost positive it will pay for most of the first year :)

Answer 1

i say go for it im 17 and im preg with my bf of 3 yrs and our relationship is very steady to we are engaged and are getting married when im 18, this was an accidental pregnancy, but it happened so we are taking responsibilitly for it, we are anxiously awaiting the arrival of our baby, i always wanted a baby too, and now that ive got one on the way, im happy, im finishing high school and will most likely do an online college, good luck and i hope u have what u want, i want a girl and will find out soon, i cant wait

good luck

ps i know what it feels like to get animals to relieve wanting a baby but it just doesnt work, when my cat of 8 yrs was killed then well i guess i became less careful thats how i ended up prego my cat was my baby i treated him just like a baby clothes and all ever since i was 9,

Answer 2

Just giving a little friendly advise..... althgough two years is a decently long time to be in a relationship, are you sure you want to marry this man and be with him forever. Do you want to finish college? A baby may impede graduating on time from college. Do you have a full time job, insurance for this baby? Who will watch the baby when needed? These are just a few questions to ask yourself before TTC a baby. Decide what is THE most important thing in your life right now, then decide if it is time for you to have a baby or not. Hope I helped you out. Good luck with your decision!

Answer 3

21 really is not to young to have a child. My wife Sherri had Gary when she was 19 and did just fine. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and have been doing your research. What I will warn you about is being prepared to give up a lot of the things you may like to do now. Your friends are going to party for several more years before they want to settle down. you have to be prepared to spend a lot more nights at home with the baby. On the lighter side Gary was the only child and he is now 21. I am only 39 and now while all my friends are raising their children I am going on vacations and doing what I want to do. Now I make more money and can put more towards retirement and things my wife and I want to do. If your ready for a child....Go for it. Good luck being a new mom - Mark

Answer 4

Hi I'm a mother of 2 they are a blessing i love them and always choose them over everything Else .They need 24 hr a day of care,that means you have to be willing to give up everything that you can do and the cant be with you unless you have a baby sitter.As for the money it really would be up to god what the child needs ,but how are you going to keep working and giving the baby everything when would you have the time ,then you would need a baby sitter which would cost even more money.I think Waite or plan your work and your future now and how to so it would work for you god bless.

Answer 5

Enjoy life, travel, go dancing,etc.get yourself stabalized in life first. You have lots of time to have a baby.There is no need to rush things. It would be selfish of you to bring a baby into this world if you economically can't support it. Plan your life out a little better and then once you have a home, a stable job, a good partner, and some savings maybe you can think about having a baby. Women are nuturers and we feel the need of having a baby (the majority do) and its a natural feeling, but don't rush it. You will be a great mother one day.

Answer 6

Having to want a child and having a child and keeping upto the resp are two sides of a coin. You have to have to want to have a child b4 u have one;-). But once you have ur child, ur total perception changes. As one of the answerers said above, to read and babysit, doesnt make it simple, though having experience matters. U ve some savings now for 1st yr, but 4 some unforeseen needs, incase u zero it, b4 1st yr and cant go on a job, it wud b hard on u, esp that u took the decision. Mentally u r ready, but get ready financially too. Increase ur savings a lil more b4 u jump in. That wud b my advice. All the very best.

Answer 7

I don't think you are too young if you have it so well planned out and a savings account. I would only advise you to get married first, it's less complicated that way as far as insurance and all of that. And save up for a few more months, you might have enough savings for a year, but you don't want to deplete it. And you might consider waiting until you are out of college and are settled in your job, but when I was in college I knew lots of people with kids and most of them were doing okay. Good Luck.

Answer 8

No one ever knows everything they need to know the first time.....but before jumping into having a baby, make sure it's what you and your boyfriend really want. And that your relationship will be able to withstand a huge change like a baby. I'd say finish school first and then if you're still ready, then you guys should plan on a baby!! Good Luck!

Answer 9

I wish you all the luck. But PLEASE keep in mind, a newborn isn't a puppy. And babysitting is never the same thing as 24/7 newborn. It is a lot of work and a lot of stress. Also remember that you are in college right now. How will you be able to to keep up with both. Studing and 2 and 4am feedings don't go together. It is best to decide which you want more right now. I don't mean to sound like I'm belittling you, I don't mean to. But I've been there, my son was 6 before I was able to go back to school.

Answer 10

you are an adult and can make the decision. Just keep in mind that reading about what it takes to care for a newborn and actually being the mother to one are completely different. Same goes for babysitting, the baby can always go home, yours is already home. Good luck with your decision.

EDIT: guess what lily, lots of people who got married get, *gasp* divorced and then they also have to deal with the child support issue, does it make it less annoying because they happened to have a piddly piece of paper before they decided to end the relationship?