i dont want to be pregnant!?

Question

i am pregnant....but i just found out i am over 24 weeks....i didnt have any symptoms, i had my period..still have it actually...nothing has changed except i feel faint all the time and my stomache jus started pokin out and it now hurts!
- i havent even has sexual intercourse in like 5 months...im so messed up what can i do?
-i cant have this baby...i cant...i dont want to give birth to it,i dont want to take care of it at all

The comments i am recieving are really mean...i took all the precausions to not have a child condom, and on the pill even took the morning after pill after the condom broke to make sure...I am 21 yrs old and financially it would deplete w/e i have been saving up...my Bf of 3 yrs doesnt have a great job to even be able to make a good dent in the bills that would pile up
-so the close your legs comments are unnessesary & and just mean as if you havent done it as well

Answer 1

I understand what you are going threw. When I was 16 I got pregnant and I didn't even know until I was 5 month along. The father of the baby wasn't willing to help and I just couldn't take care of him myself. I did what was called an open adoption. It's hard VERY hard! But I don't regret it. I recieve picture and letters every 3 months from the family. I live in NV and they live in CO so if I want to visit I can. You don't have to have an open adoption if you don't want to, but for me it made it easier!

http://www.achildsdream.org/

This is the adoption place I went threw they were very helpful and answered every question I had. They made it very easy for me.

Usually the adoptive family will cover all the medical expences and even the 3 day cooling period that the baby stays in the hospital. (you'll learn more about that when you talk with someone.) If you have any questions or just need to talk to someone who knows what your going threw e-mail me
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It's hard to do alone...

But if you do make this choice never regret it. Your giving the biggest gift to a family who could never have kids! It really is a belssing for them! like I said if you need to talk feel free to e-mail me

Answer 2

I'm sorry your in this position, however at 24 weeks, there is really nothing that can be done at this point, your baby is viable and can live outside of the womb, they do not perform abortions at this stage of the game. I'm afraid that you are going to have to have the baby, you don't however, have to take care of it, there is adoption which is a great alternative, and you will make some couple very happy. You still have some time to go, perhaps it will grow on you, having a baby is really a wonderful thing believe it or not, it's one of the best things I have ever done, although I hated every minute of every pregnancy, the outcome is worth it.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Its a little late to terminate the pregnancy, but I'm sure if you searched long and hard enough, some doctor would do it. I don't think you will have any luck with that option. You should contact your gyno or a local planned parent hood and make an appointment for a prenatal visit. Research some adoption agency options. Just because you're pregnant it doesn't mean you have to keep the baby. What ever you do, don't try any at home remedies, because you could end up accidentally killing yourself. Additionally, don't ever harm the child if it is born and you still don't want it. You can bring it to a safe haven such as a local church, hospital, police station, no questions asked. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

First, I don't believe that she needs anybody critizing her right now about her not wanting to be pregnant. No, I don't have any kids, never been pregnant, but I do know when unexpected things happens, it throws you off from your plans. Sweetheart I don't know what you had or have going on in your life right now, but I know that this throws a wrench in it. I understand you don't want to have the baby. I'm not saying that I condone women having abortions, cause I strongly believe no child asked to be here. so take care of your responsibilty. But you are to far along to have an abortion. Maybe if you found out about it earlier, you probably would have had one and that would have been your sole choice, even if the father wanted the baby. I just hope that if you would've made the decision you were sure and not being selfish to your unborn child. Please don't do anything crazy and cause yourself to miscarry. Since you are pregnant, please change your lifestyle and cater to the needs of your unborn child. Maybe overtime you will realize that you do want to have this child and wonder, "what the hell was I thinking!!". But again the choice is yours. There are people out there who cannot have kids. I believe that I'm one because alot of issues I've had in the past with my womens health, but I might just be perfectly fine, but thats how I feel sometimes. I want nothing more in the world to be able to have a baby of my own, that forms inside me and I give birth to him/her. So please just sit down and think long and hard about this. It may all just be overwhelming to you and thats why you feel this way now. I do wish you the best of luck and I hope you make the right decision that is true to YOUR HEART and NOT EVERYONE ELSES. Take care sweetie!!!

Answer 5

PLEASE READ THIS ITS NOT IN NO WAY RUDE! Look I was only 15 and in the same place as you. My boyfriend worked at a car wash and I went to school. I had an abortion ( which I know alot of people frown on) but I didnt want a baby I could prove for. Not just finacially but in no way was I ready. Then there is adoption but I couldnt go through 9months with my baby in me then have to give it away to hard for me to do. Dont listen to anyone really you do what ever you feel would be best for you and the baby. I am 19 now and do have a 8month old baby and she is my world. You wont be alone there is WIC to help and Medicaid if you have no insurance. I think you could do it.

Answer 6

see if your area has the safe haven laws.if so you can take this child to a hospital or fire department or health clinic give them the baby and you will not be charged with any crime.they want to make sure no babys are hurt or thrown away.you cannot take care of this baby but its too late to consider abortion.you will give birth- now make the right choice ,give this baby up for adoption or take it a safe haven after birth.for goodness sake after this never have unprotected sex so you never have to deal with an unwanted baby again! good luck.get some counseling you are going to need it.

Answer 7

I beg to differ, but if you are pregnant, then you have to have had intercourse sometime during the past six months. All it takes is one time to get pregnant. Since you are already too far along and you don't want this baby, place the baby up for adoption. There are thousands of couples out there who are not as fortunate as you are and are unable to have children. It would be the kindest thing that you could do for the baby. In the meantime, does the father of the baby know that you are pregnant? You need to let him know because he may want to keep the baby and care for the baby himself.

Answer 8

Since you are so far along there is nothing medically speaking they can do for you,but why not try adoption, there are a lot of people out there such as myself that want to have a baby yet keep coming up with miscarriages or stillborns!

At least you would be offering them a life with a child

Answer 9

Sorry to say hon, its too late to do anything about it. The best solution you have now is to finish carrying the baby, and make arrangements thru a planned parenthood or adoption agency to give the baby a good home. You are far too far along to have an abortion now. Even though you dont want the baby, the best thing you can do for it is to give it to a family who has been wanting one for a very long time who will love it. Please dont be one of those girls who drown their babies in toilets, or leave them on park benches to die of exposure. Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

PLEASE do not have an abortion! I know it was an accident but please. You should think about adoption. There are alot of places long with support groups that will help you in this time and there are plenty of good homes with loving families that would adopt the baby. If you do want to keep it you should try talking to your local family services they maybe could help you financially while pregnant and insurance that will cover doc bills. Good luck in whatever you decide.