whats love?

Question

if we are suppose to know its love when its love, then y do we think its love most of the time, with atleast half of our serious relationships.right? then what? we spent all those years with something we thought was love and wasnt...so then does love wait and we find it when we are 40? when we really wanted it at 20....

Answer 1

See the problem is that romantic love is a perversion of the true nature of love, its just a fantasy. It doesn't make love any less special mind you but the ideal of finding true love, soul mates, or "THE ONE" is all a falsehood. The fact is love is a term for all feelings we feel for an entity or person. On top of that the intensity of love increases as feelings become more assiciated with other feelings. This causes the problem really as people began to assoicated there new love with all kinds of possiablilities, past experiences, and future expectations. But its a magical thing none the less, but the only thing that keeps it from hurting us, destroing us, or keeping us from loving the wrong things is this darn human brain of ours. Problem comes thou because we want to believe that love is beyond or own logical thinking, which is why we have some many abusive relationships.....

Answer 2

Love is a four letter word to describe what is little more than an emotion. And like any emotion, it is most subceptable to external influence add to that the other unfortunate component of an emotion, now you feel it
now you don't. And what better to trigger it than the face of angel that could easily be hidding the heart of a devil. As for actually knowing what love suspose to be so that we can respond to it the way pavlovs dogs responded when they heard the dinner bell only to find to there surprise there was no dinner waiting for them like usual, the same way we humans respond to love's dinner bell only to find that just because our emotional dinner bell's ringging by everything that possibly could triggure it to ring is in no way the truest form of love. But unlike pavloves dogs who i suspect once they found out there was nothing waiting when the little door opened up so they merely just walked away a bit confused to say the least, the human animal doesn't get off quite so easy. Love for us may be comprised of a fast food diet in which we gouge our self and temporaraly satisfy what we assume to be our hunger for all those years as you put it, only to wake up one day and realize that it was little more than a craving that now has left us to suffer the unfortunate consequences of a poor diet . . .