I got my ultrasound on the 16th of april, and i was 20 weeks. Now i know im going to get alot of rude answer which arent needed but.. me and my boyfriend broke up.. he hit me.. and we had been going through really hard times.. i went out.. did sum things i should have done and made a stupid mistake..
i slept with another guy.. it was a stupid thing.. and in the middle of it.. i got up and left.. he didnt *** inside of me, but my conceive date is decemeber 11th.. and my due date is septemeber 3rd.. i just want to know if there is a chance that the baby could be this other guys..
since then me and my boyfriend got back together when we figured out im pregnant and have gone to counclling.. and resolved our issues..
and i want nothing more than for it to be his baby.
please do not say anything iggnorant..
im 6 months pregnant.. and im already going through enough stress.. i dont need too hear anything i dont know thanks.
2007-05-15 08:46:41 · 18 answers · asked by rachaelslavette 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I got my ultrasound on the 16th of april, and i was 20 weeks. Now i know im going to get alot of rude answer which arent needed but.. me and my boyfriend broke up.. he hit me.. and we had been going through really hard times.. i went out.. did sum things i should have done and made a stupid mistake..
i slept with another guy.. it was a stupid thing.. and in the middle of it.. i got up and left.. he didnt *** inside of me, but my conceive date is decemeber 11th.. and my due date is septemeber 3rd.. i just want to know if there is a chance that the baby could be this other guys..
since then me and my boyfriend got back together when we figured out im pregnant and have gone to counclling.. and resolved our issues..
and i want nothing more than for it to be his baby.
please do not say anything iggnorant..
im 6 months pregnant.. and im already going through enough stress.. i dont need too hear anything i dont know
THE DAY I SLEPT WITH THIS OTHER GUY WAS ON THE FIRST OF DECEMEBER
2007-05-15 09:15:51 · update #1
the day i slept with this other guy was on the first or second because it was late at night... and me and my boyfriend had continued to have sex.. before and after this.. and he regularly came inside of me.. pretty much everytime we had intercourse
2007-05-15 09:17:27 · update #2
i am sitting here with an ob wheel ( I'm an ultrasonographer , and at work , so I happen to have one right in front of me ) ....if you were 20 weeks on the day of your ultrasound , then you concieved somewhere between December 1st , and December 5th , give or take a day or two ...now what you need to do is simply look at the last date you and your BF were intimate , and compare with the day you and your "fling" were intimate and come to your own conclusions ...
I know when we break up with someone we cared about , especially after being hit , that you go through some confusion ...and many girls make the mistake of getting physical just to feel anything other than the pain of the situation . It happens ....and nayone who jusdges you should walk that mile in your shoes ....that having been said though , it's unfortunat for you that the fling caused you more heartache and confusion in the end . I feel for you .
It's good you an d your BF are in counseling .... but hunny , from a former abused woman please take this to heart , if he's an angry man , is violent , or you feel at all intimidated physically it is beter to raise a child alone than in fear . I know that people can change through intervention , and hope he has , genuinely ....but if he starts his old ways, you need to get yourself out of the situation. It's not just about you anymore ...it's also about your child . Children raised thinking violence is acceptable tend to become violent themselves , and no child deserves that.
i wish you nothing but the best .
~Ej
2007-05-15 14:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ej G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can truly understand your sensitivity to asking people to respond to your question with a little compassion, but please be prepared anyway. Some people are not kind and when you 'ask' the question, and you present your stance, some people will respond based upon what they read. For example, I am sorry that you and your boyfriend had issues and I am very, very sorry that he hit you. I am glad you went to counseling and I hope that he continues. I know so much about abuse and unfortunately, the statistics are not good when it comes to repeat offenders. I hope that you both continue counseling and please do not stay if you are placed in this position again. I am sorry that you made the mistake of going to bed with someone else - but it happens. The thing I don't want you to be ignorant about is the fact that if a man does not ejaculate in you, you may be decieved into thinking that you can't get pregnant by him. Fact: In a healthy man, about 1 million sperm rest on the head of his penis prior to entry into the vagina. (the clear liquid) Upon entry, sperm work very quickly to reach their goal. I am not a doctor, but in your calculations, you really don't say the date you slept with the other guy, but apparently, those days must have been close. At this rate, you can only hope and pray that the father is who you want him to be. Now - does your boyfriend KNOW you slept with someone else? If not, what do you think his reaction will be if he finds out? Would this cause his anger against you violently again? The only real answer to your puzzle is to have a blood test done on you, the baby and your boyfriend immediately upon the birth of the baby so there will be no question. I wish you the best of luck in this situation and I know you regret your mistake. Please don't keep this in your heart. This is probably causing you much stress and you don't need that right now. Be blessed and be safe.
2007-05-15 08:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a big chance that the baby could be this other mans child. You do not need ejaculation to get pregnant. There's always precum, an lubrication that comes out during the coarse of sex. good luck, the only real way to know is a paternity test. But if your comfortable with this man being the baby's father than just forget anything ever happened and don't say anything.
2007-05-15 08:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is wait for the baby to be born & get a DNA test done. I hope that you have been honest with your boyfriend & have told him that there is a slight chance that he may not be the babies father. It's always better to be up front then to keep surprises like this a secret. Too many people get hurt that way.While you are waiting for this baby to be born I think you and your boyfriend should really be thinking about what to do next. Is he going to stay around if the baby isn't his, will he take on the role of "daddy", if he isn't the father what are you going to do about the real father, to tell or not to tell him...things like that. I'm sure you have learned alot of your mistakes, good luck to you & your boyfriend
2007-05-15 08:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 weeks from the 16th of April is Dec 4th., although very accurate, ultrasounds are not always 100% correct. The 4th is only 1 week away from the 11th. So I would say, if you orgianally slept with and concieved with your boyfriend around the 11th, that chances are, this baby is his. If you would have misscarried, you would have known, and it would have been highly unlikely that you would have concieved again that soon. :) But as someone pointed out, the only way to truely tell is to get a DNA test.
Take care of that little one. :)
2007-05-15 09:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kimm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like it's your boyfriends! I conceived around December 15 and was given a due date of September 3 as well! Good luck I hope everything works out, this is a very stressfull time but be sure to take care of yourself and your baby first!
2007-05-15 08:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a small chance that this baby could be for the other man, but it is a small chance. You can get pregnant from the pre-***. It is rare however. I would just leave it be for now and if you are still unsure after the baby is born you can get a DNA test done for $100. congratulations on the baby.
2007-05-15 08:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Candice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since we don't know when you had sex with the other guy, there is no way for us to know who the father is. Do you remember when the first day of your last period was? If so, count 12-18 days from then. If you had sex with the other guy during that time, it is possible the baby is his. If not, it is most likely your boyfriends.
2007-05-15 08:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm......you didn't include any dates for when you slept with these guys. More than likely, it's your boyfriend's. But there is always a chance that it's the other guy's. You will a DNA test done after the baby is born.
2007-05-15 08:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you were fertile? How long is your cycle? If it's 28 day, you ovulated 14 days after your period. You definitely need a paternity test. Just be careful of your boyfriend. If he hit you once , he's bound to hit you again. You need to get out of that relationship.
2007-05-15 08:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Queen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋