The guy is from our past and we WERE all friends - but recently (3+ years) he has been avoiding me to meet her almost an hours drive from Austin where he lives/works. She has been trying to meet him for lunch every second week. I don't think there is anything romantic going on - just feels weird that she would want to go all this way to spend time with someone who wont spend time with us as a family. Should I be concern?
2007-05-15 08:43:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, you should be concerned and then you should put a stop to it. Would she like it if you were the one meeting someone of the opposite sex and she couldn't come?? I think not.
2007-05-15 08:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there...
I agree with most of the other answers...Sounds like your wife is playing with fire...and if she doesn't stop this she will get burned!
Many people who start seeing ex's - just as friends, nothing more - eventually end up very confused about their feelings.
If you spend time with another person who is not your spouse, you are walking down a dangerous path. If your wife's intentions are really to spend time with a friend, that's great, but unfortunately you cannot be certain that this man has the same idea....
Men and women think differently, and many times men make a woman believe they want to be just friends but deep inside they know they want something else; and they are willing to wait for it to happen.
So I'd say keep your eyes and ears open; and if you are truly not comfortable with this I'd also say talk to your wife and ask her to stop contacting him. (Ask her how she'd feel if you were the one doing this.....) Good luck!
2007-05-15 09:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her to skip a meeting and see what her reaction will be. Does this guy have a girlfriend? married? these are some answers you will need. A woman driving 1hr every other week to meet and old friend for lunch without you? maybe they are talking about you also.
Good luck
2007-05-15 08:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by H D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is doing something you don't like, you should be concerned. How would she feel if you were meeting some woman for lunch on a regular basis. You need to let her know how you feel and lay down the law.
2007-05-15 08:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Great Joke. There is a phrase in Tamil which says "Ikkaraiku Akarai Pachai". Description : A person stands by the side of a lake and looks to the other side of the lake, he wonders why it's always beautiful and green on the other side while his side slushy and dirty. Little did he understand that his side would look the same when viewed from the other side of the lake.
2016-05-19 01:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do that. At first it was perfectly innocent. But as time went on, sparks began to fly....it is too dangerous.
My own mother even told me that it was okay and that husband's shouldn't be jealous.
One a week, on your best behavior makes the person too attractive.
Tell her you understand her needs, but that it is just too dangerous of a situation.
Find out if there is a group or club she can join to get the outside friendship you need.
2007-05-15 08:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sally 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are married first of all, and second of all I would be concerned, maby she does not want him to see you as a family becuase she wants to give him the impression that she is single.
Red Flag alert!!!!!
Talk to your wife, there might be more going on then you know!!
2007-05-15 09:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is avoiding your family and just opting to spend time with your wife, I would say he has feelings for her and guilty about see your "family". The question is, how does she feel about him?
2007-05-15 08:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Katana1971 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Any co-ed friendships where the other person is going out of their way to not see you is a big red-flag situation.
2007-05-15 08:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by feenixsunshine 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take it from someone who knows............ Be concerned....They are a couple lunches away from leaving you in the dust.
2007-05-15 08:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋