My 30 year old fiance works with a friendly, flirty-type 23 yr old. I found text messages on his phone telling her he would like to spoil her and they could have any kind of relationship she wants. She rejected him because she has a boyfriend and knew about me. My fiance told her how lucky her bf was and that he was looking for a better gf. He told me it was never going to go anywhere, he was seeing if he was still attractive to younger women. He had a hard time with turning 30. This hurts me even more because I am 8 yrs older. He has apologized. Do you think this would have went further if the girl had said yes?
2007-05-15 07:50:08 · 20 answers · asked by Tyra99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trying to see if he still had it??? LIE, big time! If that young lady would have accepted his proposal he would have been out the door and on his way to play cowboys and Indians with her! The fact is...he's looking for someone younger to make him feel younger. Your 38'ish...approaching 40, you were right for him at one time, but anymore. A friend of mine dated a guy 12 years younger than her and the exact same thing happened. She kept him until she found him in bed with a much younger woman! Needless to say now she only dates men that within 5 years of her age, because they are at the same point in life and have the same ideals! Get rid of him and find someone who won't go scouting for a younger doe!
Good luck!
2007-05-15 08:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by CJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this, but the chances are he would have jumped right at the chance if she had said yes. You should tell her thank you for respecting you like that and tell him to pack his gear and hit the road. Sorry, but being 38 means nothing, just that picked an immature boy for a fiance'.
2007-05-15 07:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT ARE YOU STILL DOING WITH HIM?!? If he is your fiance, why is he texting another female the way he is?!? YOU'RE ABOUT TO BE MARRIED TO THIS MAN!!! Are you really going to let him get away with that? His excuse of trying to see if he was still attractive is SO LAME!!! Why would he care for? He has a fiance, YOU!!! SO WHY WOULD HE WANT TO FIND OUT IF HE WAS STILL ATTRACTIVE!?! Girl, it's OBVIOUS that he was trying to cheat or tempted to cheat!!! It's a good thing that she was respectful of her relationship and yours...Your fiance does not respect your relationship at all...You should get out while you can...
2007-05-15 07:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 00:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it would have gone further had the girl said 'yes' to him. He is only telling you what he is saying currently because he was, in effect, rejected by this other female. It's good you are not married to him because you can walk away much easier now. You can't trust this man.
2007-05-15 07:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, I think he would have taken it further. There are boundaries and he has crossed them. This is your call, I personally would be really concerned that he is searching. Turning 30, no, excuse to me. Sorry your hurt, sorry he is doing this, but trust will have to be earned from him. Good luck and hope the best for you.
2007-05-15 07:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by flower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, almost assuredly.
People generally do not put that kind of thing out there if they are just trying to see if they are attractive.
Had she said yes, he'd be obligated by his words to go through with it, right? So he lies to you or he lies to her, but in no way is he an honest guy.
It's up to you, but I think if you want a guy that won't cheat, this doesn't sound like that kind of guy.
2007-05-15 07:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want to be with this man? He probably has cheated and if he hasn't he will, and it has nothing to do with age and everything to do with him being a cheating dog. You really need to not marry this man because he will cheat and in the mean time that will cause you a train wreck for your self esteem.
2007-05-15 08:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think he'd have cheated in a heart beat if she'd have been open to it...in my opinion he was already cheating just by sending her suggestive text messages when his heart is supposed to belong to you. I think that it is best for you to end this relationship before he finds another woman who IS willing to cheat with him. Don't you deserve someone who is 100% devoted to making sure you have whatever kind of relationship you want? Don't settle!!!
2007-05-15 07:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by juda75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And if you arew 38 and he is 30 it probably won't work. Sorry but it has all the hallmarks of a train wreck in slow motion. He is too interested in himself and immature. Move on.
2007-05-15 07:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋