Ive been w/him for 17 years and have never really had a drive for it but over the last few years I have just been repulsed by the thought of his stubby little hands on my body. I try to creep into my bed without making a sound but he can be snoring and still hear me and wake right up. We've tried EVERYTHING. what should I do?
2007-05-15 07:45:49 · 32 answers · asked by Diana A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess that you should have some fun and go out with me to break the boredom...and get some fire back into your life...
2007-05-15 07:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You dont mention your feelings towards your husband. Have you fallen out of love with him? At some point you thought he was the best man in the world for you and chose him to be with you for rest of your life. I can only assume you no longer feel towards him like you did when you married. I would get therapy or make sure you two have some fun together once in awhile and mimic those dates that led you to your decision when marrying him. 17 years is a long time. Good luck.
2007-05-15 07:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is harsh to say and feel that especially after seventeen years. I know that maybe sometimes reality kicks in and you take a step back and say wow now that i look at it he is or she is but that's not why ya'll got married. Somethings people cant help but they trusted you to love them no matter what knowing that they looked are have weird habits like they do when they married you. If they did the same to you wouldn't you feel like scum of the earth? My wife is no Carmen Electra but I love her and her body just as much and more than i would if Carmen Electra drop right into my arms. Its the commitment of love and compassion i made to my wife when i said i love you and gave her my vow. I'm sorry to say this but the real question is did you even really love him to begin with and do you now? When you grow old looks won't mean a thing. If anything you need to apologize to your husband and get over your fickle ways!
2007-05-15 08:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by waltdawg3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after 17 years it is natural that the passion is not there. did he say or do something to you for you to feel so sexually repulsed by him? if you are interested in making the marriage work, then i would suggest counseling and get to the root of the problem. if you are that repulsed by him and not interested in making it work, maybe you should spend some time apart..figure out why you fell in love with him in the first place. good luck.
2007-05-15 07:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You called his stubby little hands creeping over your body. These do not sound like words of a wife whose madly in love with her husband. Sounds like you are or have fallen out of love. Better have a long talk with yourself and then with your husband.
2007-05-15 07:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said you 'never really had a drive for it', then WHY did you marry him????? 'Repulsed by the thought of his stubby little hands on your body'????...WHY did you marry him???....To answer you main question:
Because you've never been normal!!! Because you married a man you never loved!!
What should you do?.....I'd rather not answer....
2007-05-15 07:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try umm ask hm to put gloves on. y u feel this way towards him r u no longer in love are u repulse cause he has stubby hands? did u feel like this last year r u attracted to a slimer man? try praying
2007-05-15 07:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love your husband, that isn't a sin, to fall out of love with someone. You really can't stand to go to bed at night knowing that he is going to start feeling and touching, just because your married doesn't mean you have to spend your life with a person that you hate his ever touch. That is the time to start looking for a Divorce Atty. and get your life back. There is nothing worst than sitting there at night dreading to see that clock hit it's time to go to bed.
You need to leave and start a new life with someone that you really love and look forward to a good night of sex. Get your divorce and let me tell you, their out there so don't waste your life because life is to short and when your dead , your dead a long, long time.
My Best to You.
2007-05-15 07:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some resentments toward him, dont love him, or maybe a general sex hang-up? Do you fantasize about other men? If you do, then the problem is him. ( the relationship with him). If thats the case, maybe some conversations, or counseling would help. good luck.
2007-05-15 07:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we've tried everything...?.. heres what i did before i finally left my stubby handed ex.. i put on his fav ball game and let him fall asleep on the couch.. then tip toe to bed.. oh yeah don't for get the stiff drink or a few beers.. men loves thoughs while there watching them sports
2007-05-15 07:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the thought of stubby little fingers touching me either.
I'm not sure - try to focus on something else. Have some wine before bed. Fantasize about someone else.
2007-05-15 07:48:44 · answer #11 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋