when I was growing up I had a pleasing perspective with whom I was growing up, but come to know that that person had done the worse to some of my sisters.. you should know what I am talking about. I trusted this person with all of my heart. Now, that my sisters are grown up they have trouble with there sexual life, due to there terrible experience. I tried talking to this person, because I suffered too.. ALOT!!! I don't know how to help my sisters, I wish I could help them... but, I don't know what to do! I love them to death... and I do not know what to do .. I usually advice them, but those scars will be there forever. I have adviced them to seek professional help, but they think it is soooo embarrasing and humiliating.. they have kind of gotten it off there back by praying.. they, rely on God for many things.. I love them and I would never hurt them.. the way this person did... and he was a very important role in our lives.. what can I do?
2007-05-15 07:07:41 · 5 answers · asked by ; ) 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think it's great that they have found some help in prayer. They shouldn't be humiliated or embarrassed by seeking counseling. They did nothing wrong and besides, no one has to know that they are seeing a counselor. I've been through counseling and it is really helpful to talk to a neutral 3rd party about things. They have a different outlook on it than friends or family members. It sounds like you have been a great support system for them and you should keep that up. This will be with them for the rest of their lives, but they can ease the pain through prayer and counseling. Maybe they would be willing to tlk to a pastor or someone from their church. They are the innocent ones in all of this. I wish you and your sisters peace.
2007-05-15 07:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to impress upon them that counseling will help. no one wants to go to counseling at first... i suggest that all of you have a group session with one counselor. this way you will be able to support each other, and also motivate each other to go.
there are church groups that talk of these issues too, but the follow through would not be as good as a professional help.
before you see a counselor (i would also suggest it be a women) check around and meet with more then one counselor to see if you like the person... a test drive of sorts...
i wish you well...
2007-05-15 14:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by nite_cap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your question twice I think I sort of get the jist of things, can you not get together and talk about your problems together and learn from each other.
Or you could go to a professional and have a group session?
2007-05-15 14:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Gracie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They rely on God...
But tell me, where was God when it happened?
Any way, there isn't much you can do I think, they need professional help. The only thing you can do is tell them you love them and be patient.
2007-05-15 14:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by sweetera 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to them, let them know how much you love them, reassure them that it was not their fault, always be there for them and if you can try to continue encouraging them to get professional help
2007-05-15 14:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋