Does it make me a legal wife?

Question

Hi. My husband and I have a 7 year old son. We've been together for over 8 years, but we never married. We are both working. Lately, my man's second cousin came to our town. She is a single mother, in her late 40's, left her children in other state. My husband has many rental properties and he offered her a apartment for free. He also shopped for groceries, took her out for dinners, brought lunches to her work, gave her money, paid for her cell phone. My inlaw family and I begged her to leave us alone. She said my man loved her and they could do whatever they wanted since he never married me. My man admitted that he liked her too but when he found out that she dated her boss at the same time and kicked her boss's xgirlfriend out on the street, my man decided to leave her. He does not want to be a spared tire. She threatened to ruin my husband and my inlaw's reputaion if he left her. My son is very young, I don't want him to lose his father. What kind of cousin is she? Please help us

If having a son with together and living in the same house with my man don't make me a legal wife, what can I do about his misstress?

Answer 1

you are worried about what kind of person your cousin is?????? and your boyfriend is not your husband unless you marry each other........you should be kicking his butt to the curb, sounds like a real jewel.....

Answer 2

Married or not, you are in a long-term relationship, and he should be committed to you (unless you had both agreed tp dathe other people in an "open" relationship). While it may not be a LEGAL betrayal, it is still an EMOTIONAL betrayal.

The cousin is highly manipulative and morally bankrupt - she does NOT have the right to steal your man or ruin anyone's reputation, especially just for her own gain. She's a fool if she thinks blackmailing a man into staying with her is a solid plan.

And her power over you isn't real - how can she possible ruin your husband's reputation without also ruining her own? This isn't The Scarlet Letter - if she spreads the word of his infidelity she'll also be spreading the word of her own gold-digging and trampiness. Your man needs to kick her out of the apartment, and cut off all payments to her expenses. Tell her to move on and take her self-destructive practices to someone else. Your man can call his in-laws and tell them honestly what he's done - and why.

Also, depending on the state you live in, you may technically really be husband and wife - it's called a common-law marriage. I think in most states it's valid if you've lived together for at least 7 years, but call your lawyer or county registrar's office to make sure.

Answer 3

It depends on where you live. In many states in the east and south anyone who is living together for 7 years or longer are called and are legally referred to as "common law" marriages. They are legally married. However, in California and many states in the west, there are no common law marriages.

This is not to say that you don't have legal rights. You do. If you two split you have the right to child support and also maybe spousal support.

What you need to do is to find a divorce lawyer and to settle this once and for all. And hopefully you have learned, living together doesn't make a relationship long-term, moral, or a marriage.

Answer 4

Speak with a lawyer well-versed in family law in your state/country for more advice as to what to do about this woman and your marital status.

In some places having a physical relationship with your second cousin is considered incest - be careful of what can/will happen.

speak with a lawyer.

Answer 5

What does your story have to do with being a "legal wife". I think this is some twisted stuff. Your "husband" is having an affair with his second cousin and you are asking about not losing him? WTF. You need to get some counseling and get out of that mess. I really don't even know what else to say.

Answer 6

This is what happens when you allow other people into the marriage.....stupid, stupid, stupid....