2007-05-15 06:36:01 · 15 answers · asked by lssc06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should have thought about that before you got married. You obviously got married way too fast or else you would have known that he was not the one before you married him. Have the decency to tell him how you feel. You don't deserve him.
2007-05-15 06:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Forgive my answers...they are on the spiritual side...
We often choose people for what they do for us "right then"...how they rock our world THEN...and we dont have the vision to see 'does this person have what it takes to grow with me and to help me become the person God intended me TO BE'. God knows though. The bible tells us that He knew us before we were formed in our mother's womb. We are 'fearfully and wonderfully made' by Him...and though you couldnt/cant see it, God has put this husband in your life for a reason. He doesnt make mistakes. We may feel we have, but God knows better.
For that reason, I encourage you to seek God for direction. At the heart of all discontent about marriage is the enemy and his greatest tool is lust. You are feeling like your husband doesnt 'turn you..on'- and i would guess that is because you are allowing other images and thoughts of men to take the place of those you once reserved only for your husband. The world will tell us 'there's no harm in looking, or smiling' and 'he's just a friend'...but it IS harmful. It plants seeds in your heart and mind that will grow to manifest in what you feel now..which is disinterest and possible divorce.
WHen you seek God for understanding, He will show you how to have a marriage with THIS man, that exceeds anything your heart, mind or body could have ever imagined.
2007-05-15 07:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ******* kidding me right???
Please hurry up and tell this man how you feel so he can find a good woman, someone who will not turn around a year later and say she made a mistake...
Your a sad mistake for a woman and you do not deserve love at all!
But don't worry, you'll get what you deserve.. I hope someday some man does the same exact thing to you and then you will get to see how it feels...
LOSER!!!!
2007-05-15 06:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where you ever "in love" with him?
There is a difference between "in love" and "loving" and many marriages can't bridge the gap.
Being "in love" is still living in hopes of the dream perfect life together. Sadly, this is usually unrealistic.
Loving someone is accepting them complete for who they truly are. After years of being together you learn how a person really is and not just their dating game persona.
After only a year and you already are having doubts?
I think you had VERY high expectations and aren't able or willing to accept anything less.
2007-05-15 07:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, I have to agree with the first answer. Marriage is not to be taken lightly, on a whim - and certainly not because "he turns you" (whatever that is supposed to mean)- but because there is a deep abiding love - a willingness to accept each other as they are, but also the desire to help the other to become the best person they can be. It takes patience, courage, and most of all, commitment to make a marriage work - obviously of which you have none.
2007-05-15 06:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is just soooooooooo sad to read....A mistake? You committed yourself to someone marrying him, and after a year you say you made a 'mistake' because he 'does not turn' you???....How superficial of you...You're giving 'marriage' a bad name...And that poor man the biggest disappointment of his whole life:(
2007-05-15 07:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess you never stopped to consider the actual meaning of the commitment you made be making wedding vows. Kind of felt was a "I'll try it see if I liked it" type thing. Well good luck undoing it. Our society is so bent on preserving marraige you will find the process very diffacult.
2007-05-15 06:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think I know where your coming from... Did you like a lot about this person and thought he would be good for you?
If you answer yes to these questions than I say tell him what you think your missing and show him how to give you what you need, don't walk away he may have what your looking for?
2007-05-15 07:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by Yasbri5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage takes work, and the first year is the roughest. You have to do those little things that keeps your love going for each other. Go out on weekly dates. Do those little things for each other you did when you were dating. Plan little surprizes. You can't just sit back and wait for marriage to happen, you have to work at it.....
2007-05-15 06:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the truth is the best way to take care of any potential problem. Imagine waiting 5 years and then it will huret him even more. therevare ways to help people get turned on and if you believe that he does not have what it takes, remember sex is as important in a relationship as any other part, so don't wait if its over because of his feelings because hurt a little bit now is better than alot later
2007-05-15 06:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Frank L 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋