what have i done wrong?

Question

I 've been going to school with this girl for 5 years now, we're both 18. We used to be best friends, up to autumn 2006. We don't fit in with our class very well, even though we're nice and funny (and prettier than the other girls in our class). We really click, it's as though we can read each others mind sometimes. But then, in August 2005 I left my country and went on an exchange year. My friend nearly had a break-down, she worried a lot and cried real hard when we said good-bye and when we called (she hated being alone in our class and felt really lonely when i was gone). She organized parties for me when i left and when I arrived. But now, that I'm back, she seems to be trying to show me that she doesn't need me. She never calls any more, we barely talk about our privater lives to each other. She always goes out with her sisters friends now.
And whenever we are with other people, she does everything to be the centre of attention, like she's in a competition w. me.
what can i do?

Answer 1

A lot can happen in a year. You've prbably changed from your experiences and your friend has too. Her behavior may not actually e centered on communicating things to you; it's possible that she just started behaving differently in the year you were gone. Some friends do drift apart, even when they don't go for a year without seeing each other. All you can really do is make an effrt on your end to stay close and let her know you still care. But there's no garauntee your friendship will go back to being just the way it was. Good luck.

Answer 2

I would sit down and really have a talk with her. When you're that close to someone and one ends up going their own way for awhile; that can cause the other person to carry resentment, fear, jealousy, anger; all kinds of stuff. I have a feeling this person either has gone through all of those things and might still be, which is why you'd want to talk with her about it. She didnt' have any control of that situation and it freaked her out; rightfully so. This is an excellent time to talk with her etc...You guys don't want to "compete" with one another, that's silly.

Answer 3

she isnt trying to show u up she is trying to show herself that she can be her own best friend, dont sweat it u didnt leave because u wanted 2 u left because u had to just do the same thing back to her dont show her that u need her in your life but that u liked having her friendship but dont make it seem like u would die without her.

Answer 4

is nothing that u can do.. really but.. u need to talk to her.. and tell her what happen with the friendship.. but.. well.. girl don't be sad.. just fine another friend.. is hard.. but is she was really Ur friend.. u wouldn't go away.. !! well good luck.. keep on going!! kisses bye

Answer 5

You should talk to her to see whats going on. Or maybe while you were out of town you didn't call her everyday to see how she doing. Try to talk to her and find out. Good Luck Girl.

Answer 6

tell her the same thing you've told us and she what she says. She may have grown apart from you.

She had to find other friends after you left, so she has a different view of your friendship now.

Answer 7

time away will either make the heart grow fonder or out of sight out of mind. she probably realized that without you friendship the world didn't end like she thought it would. get you some more frineds you'll need them

Answer 8

Maybe she found that she can survive without you and is afraid to go back to being dependent on you.

Answer 9

Nothing really you may have grown apart. Maybe you should talk to her about it!

Answer 10

Cry. Break down and cry in front of her.