i moved in with him right when i met him and rushed to getting married 6 months later when i was only 18. i feel it was a mistake now because im so young and i wasnt really experienced with being an adult when i married him. how do i end it now?
2007-05-15 05:53:55 · 10 answers · asked by sweet T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Milk him for everything he has, then break the news to him.
2007-05-15 06:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Alisa 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you ever see those questions from woman around the age of eighteen asking whether they should get married now or wait and they always reply with "wait, your still young and you have your whole life ahead of you?" Anyways your a perfect example!!!!
You made the choice in marrying this man so young so i think you should live with the consequences..Remember you married him for better or for worse..I can't believe you would even think about leaving him just because YOU feel you married to young and you didn't really experience being an adult...What exactly is being an adult to you???
Have you even thought about maybe marriage counceling or something of that sort, that could maybe help try to re piece what's left of your marriage??
I mean seriously how would you feel if your husband felt he married you too young and didn't experience adulthood alone so for that he wanted to divorce you and you were still very much in love with him???I mean i don't know how your husband feels about you, if he is still in love with you or feels the same way, i don't know..Befor making any huge decisions i would sit down and talk to him about it, find out exactly how he feels and go from there..
If he feels the same then great, the divorce will be mutual but if he still loves you very much then you will be breaking his heart..Ask yourself why you married him in the first place and maybe try to bring that back..
I would suggest trying to work on your marriage for a little bit, get some counceling, seperate or together.. befor deciding to divorce this poor guy. You owe him that much!
2007-05-15 13:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorces and break ups are never easy and there is no easy way to do it either. As painful as its going to be youre probably best being honest up front and just infrom him that you made a mistake up front and want out. He may already realize this and agree which would undoubtdly make it much easier. Since, hopefully, no children are involved then this would be a simple divorce where you just leave with what you came in with. If possible, sit down with him and work out the details on paper before going to court. Sorry about the marriage and good luck in your future endeavors
2007-05-15 13:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have asked this before and I'm going to do it again.....Why does everyone think divorce is the answer to everything?!?!? You married him and you weren't drunk when you did it were you?! If not then you need to stay with him and work out your problems. You should read "The Five Love Languages" and have your hubby read it too. I think it would help if you realy and truly followed the advice. Divorce is NOT the answer. You made the committment and that should mean something to you. I really hope you stay and work things out with him.
2007-05-15 13:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Rhiannon C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I think it is wrong to divorce, sometimes you can't help it. I would advise you to seek counseling before you cancel his contract. This MIGHT be what you need. WOW -- 18 yrs old is YOUNG to get married... But you need to remember WHY you married him. What did you LOVE about this man??? Sometimes thinking about that helps more than you know!!!!
2007-05-15 13:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by *Fickle Pickle* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where were your parents?? they should have stoped you from marrying him at that age. Well, too late now. I suggest contacting a lawyer and get a divorce rolling. No point in wasting your youth debating on whether or not to stay with this guy. There are plenty of fish in the sea go catch another one and another one and another one.
2007-05-15 12:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think they best thing to do is to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel.
I think that being honest with the person that you are invovled with is the best idea.
I wish you the best of luck and i hope that everything works out ok for you both.
Best of luck
2007-05-15 12:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I in the same boat, but my husband abused me with words and hands
2007-05-15 13:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by lssc06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made a mistake and have to live with it. thats life
2007-05-15 12:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Blax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheat on him with me.
2007-05-15 17:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by SEAN A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋