the reason is...which i posted on a different relationship site...duh to me. they are texting a person from work has been going on for a while now, both parties are with someone..both say nothing is going on...my partner is sticking up for this person and cannot see a problem with this...there has been history between them. it has cause rows on both sides, break ups and getting back together. am really confused at the moment
2007-05-15 05:28:47 · 22 answers · asked by toddlfc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's how i feel 2 at the moment, i have decided to just let it all go, i am concentrating on myself only at the moment my well being and my own emotional state! i am still in contact with my bf but am letting him make all the moves, i spent time with him Sunday and asked him if i was going to see him again, before he had chance to answer i said its up to you! he said if i text you later you will no! within half hour of leaving him he text to say have a nice day babe, then text again to say goodnight! still don't now if i am seeing him again but i will just wait for him to ask, then i will decide if i want to see him again. while i am waiting i am trying to fill my time with things instead of sitting about and winding myself up! hope things work out for you! just remember you have no control over anybody else's actions, you can only control your own actions! take this time to check into your own emotions and whatever will be will be! take care xx
2007-05-15 05:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the other person is cheating on you, then that person doesn't love you. You can't make a relationship work if it is one-sided. If (he or she?) is having an emotional affair then they don't have time for you. You said the word "partner" so that can mean many things, if you're not married, go. Find someone else. If you are married, demand counseling. Oh, and by the way, you can call the cell phone company and get a copy of the text messages.
2007-05-15 05:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Raja_Nala 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself why do you want to walk away? Are you doing it because you're hurt, and want to protect yourself and your feelings? Are you doing it to get back at them or get their attention?
It could be that nothing significant is going on between them. If you love them, and they love you, you should put in the effort to work through it and understand each other, if you can. Don't walk away until you've tried everything and know it's over. If you don't, you'll always wonder if you did the right thing.
2007-05-15 05:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Salinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're going to leave the person you're with because of a difference in a opinion having to do with something external to your own relationship?
Were you looking for a reason to leave him anyway?
I wouldn't leave someone over this ONE thing, but if you feel that over all you and he do not share the same values, it's probably best to end things now.
2007-05-15 05:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its all about trust
no relationship can last with out trust.
It sounds like you don't trust this person and that you aren't happy.
you have to do what makes you happy.
And i am not going to lie it is going to hurt like hell for a long time but i think that you will be better off in the long term .
Best of luck to you
2007-05-15 06:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is no trust between the two of you then there cant be a relationship.If there was history between them before they might be wanting to start where they left off? There is plenty more fish in the sea and i am sure there is someone out there that will love you for who you are.
2007-05-15 05:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down talk it through. Explain to your partner how you feel and think. Who ever the people are messing around behind there partners back will get what thy deserve. I'm a strong believer in Karma.
2007-05-15 05:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much drama for me...I'd move on...it's FINE for people to have opposite sex friends, but if the communication is inappropriate they are being secretive about it, that's a problem...
If it's already caused break ups...I'd say let them get together and each of their partners can move on to more stable pastures...
2007-05-15 05:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving is accepting them for who they truly are.
So stop being so accepting.
Start picking on everything they do.
Eventually you will just see them as unacceptable in every way and you just will not care about them.
OR
Just stop seeing them and feel like you let a good guy get away.
2007-05-15 05:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him and can live with his faults and even a possible affair, fight for your marriage don't walk away unless he wants a divorce or there are other issues that you are not communicating.
2007-05-15 05:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋