My vagina is very, very tight. I am now 5 months pregnant with my fiance and i can't decide on whether i should deliver natural or c- section. I don't want the baby to absolutely destroy my vagina. I know people say it goes back to normal but that is very hard to believe considering the size of the baby etc.We have such an excellent sex life i don't want to destroy it by ripping my vagina to shreds. Any ladies have some thoughts from experience here. Thanks
2007-05-15 05:07:30 · 27 answers · asked by cheeba1881 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
atually 1st time if you reread that 6 months question it was a typo and i was really 6 weeks.... get off this site if you want to be rude to people..your the one acting stupid.. thanks to everyone else foe the imput i'm 26 and got a lot of q's
2007-05-15 05:53:54 · update #1
Are they giving you a choice? Because it's against the ACOG (governing board of gynecologists) to give a choice for no medical reason. If you need a c/section, then that's fine and a medical decision to be discussed with your doctor...other than that, babies were meant to be delivered through the birth canal and c/section is for when there is a risk with that option....You had to know when you got pregnant that it might stretch the vagina a bit....but if you do kegel exercises (tighten the muscles used when you climax or to stop peeing) now and after the baby is born you should be able to make things almost the same they were before the baby...
2007-05-15 05:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by **SMILE** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you get a choice, unless you are a movie star or a rock star, then all rules go out the window...
But... why would you even consider having a c-setion, electively? It is MAJOR surgery! With major surgery there are major risks as well... if you want to know what's involved, google the procedure. I've assisted on MANY, and I wouldn't just sign up for one...unless it was medically necessary.
As far as delivering vaginally...your vagina will be fine. It goes back to normal after childbirth. It is meant stretch to deliver a baby. Having a vaginal delivery will not be the thing --"destroying your sex life"... having a newborn might put some extra stress and strain there...but otherwise, no.
2007-05-15 05:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by dmmls 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all many doctors wont let you decide....A c-section is a major surgery and really shouldnt be done if not needed. The recovery time is much longer and you cant bend and pick up things for some time afterward.
As for the vaginal delivery....the vaginal wall stretches greatly to accomadate the baby...God created us to have babies this way. And it goes back within the six weeks....I have had 4 babies and my husband says its no different. Having the baby naturally will NOT destroy your sex life...your vagina does not get ripped to shreds...simply stretches and goes back just like any other muscle would.
Not to be mean but you are the one who will destroy your own sex life by being so worried about it all. You should be rejoicing that you can have a baby and praying that you baby is healthy not worrying about sex afterwards.
2007-05-15 05:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by InHisGrace 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you don't get to decide most of the time. Some, unscrupulous docs, will allow you to opt for a C-section when not medically necessary. A c-section is MAJOR abdominal surgery. Recovery is not easy and is worse than a vaginal delivery. The tenderness of the incision site (I've known people whose incision is still tender, years after the section) may make sex uncomfortable. Bet you didn't think of that.
About the "tight vagina." My best friend had a vaginal delivery of an 8lb baby. She tore and required stitches. Guess what? Almost right after they started having sex again, they started back up with their issues with her being so tight. So yes, it does go back to normal. I don't know of any women that have destroyed their sex life by having a vaginal delivery. The kids put a damper on sex, but not any vaginal trauma. Best of luck.
2007-05-15 05:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're giving birth to your fiance? I am kidding. Having a baby will not absolutely destroy your vagina. C-section should only be used in emergencies. If you decide to have your baby through C-sec it will make it harder for a natural birth if you choose to have another one. If your fiance really loves you he is not going to worry about the size of your vagina, you can have a great sex life no matter what the size of your vagina is. This is the same for guys who are various sizes. It should go back to normal. You shouldn't base your decision on how it will make your fiance feel during sex, if he is pressuring you on this then he is wrong.
P.S. Your Vagina will go back to normal but your stomach won't if you have c-sec.
2007-05-15 05:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Nunyabusiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes back. I went throught the same thoughts before my first and had the baby naturally n my vagina went back to its tight self then after a second its still holding out n ma sex life is a good as ever. With a c-section yooh dnt have all the positive you get from natural labour. Its all worth it in the end to see yoor baby looking at yooh. Gettin all emotional now Hehe. Definately go for natural trust me x
2007-05-15 05:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Claireluvsyaxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your vagina does go back to normal
read books im still young(16)i dont have a baby i just know a lot because of books and also my cousin is studying to be those doctors that deliver babies
but thats why woman have vaginas to deliver babies thats what they are for
my mom's goddaughter had a c section and she said if leaves a nasty scar and it hurts more than normal labor so also i dont think you have a choice unless the doctor tells you that you have to have an emergency c section cuz the baby is too big
2007-05-15 05:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by clover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can just decide to have a C-section. I can tell you that the experience of a vaginal birth is amazing! I would recommend and epidural, that will not hurt the baby or you and you will be able to better enjoy the birth of your child if you aren't consumed with pain. I am so happy I was able to have a vaginal delivery rather than a surgery that resulted in a baby. The process of childbirth is your first opportunity to bond with your baby. I you have a choice, go for a vaginal birth, you will be glad you did!
2007-05-15 05:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by HLBellevino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that you will be able to have a c section because u want one that is usually only a choice for famous people like brittany spears. but if u do have the option c sections are much worse in pain than naturally delivering...and ur vagina will go back to normal! even if u have a 10 pound baby
2007-05-15 05:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ mommyof2 ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an emergency c section first time around and was given a choice for the second delivery - I opted for a planned c section with my second child. They told me that I could try labour if I wanted to, but that they wouldn't let it go on for very long due to risks of rupture. The planned c section with my second child was absolutely wonderful - a calm and beautiful experience and it was much easier to get over than the first emergency c section (which was terrifying).
2016-05-18 21:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋