i think my husband is gay because i say him in a gay strip clud.
2007-05-15 04:56:18 · 24 answers · asked by CECE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your already married than what the hell getting married 4?
2007-05-15 05:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A part of being married is to be able to open up and share almost everything. If you can't do that now then I shudder to think what kid of marriage you might have. Communication is the key to any sucessful marriage. You need to come right out and tell him you saw him at the gay strip club and want to know what he was doing there. Ask him if he is gay that you will understand and not hold anything against him that you just want him to be honest with you. Any doubts need to be rosolved before you take your vows. If you don't you are only setting yourself up for dissapointment. I wish you the best and hope all turns out well. Don't wait a minute longer. Get to it girl.
2007-05-15 12:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you haven't gotten married yet, then he ain't your husband so don't call him that.
I have no way of telling you if he is gay or not, and I don't know if he would tell you the truth if you asked, but it seems to me that if you can't trust a person to stay out of gay bars right before he is getting married, you should probably stay away from a person like that.
I would certainly not go through with a wedding if I was a woman and I saw my husband to be in a strip club.
2007-05-15 12:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if he is gay or not! He is probably gay though, as no self respecting straight man would visit a gay strip club! I married a guy I thought might be gay, and a year and a baby later we got a divorce.
2007-05-15 12:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by kariafrazier 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out BEFORE the wedding. There is too much money, feelings and other things involved in a wedding. Don't go through with it if there are doubts. Everyone will appreciate the fact that you cancelled it if you aren't sure.
The fact that he was in a strip club when you are getting married is a clear indicator to me that he isn't ready to commit to you either.
2007-05-15 12:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by piprincess22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters don't marry him. If you want to know for sure then take him to the gay strip club as a joke and see what happens when he is there. All straight guys will not be interested in watching men strip. Or if you have a gay friend have them hit on him.
2007-05-15 12:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Even if he is gay.. if he wants to marry you, why not? obviously you two have a wonderful relationship. If you do get divorced will he be able to support any children you may have or pay alimony? If he is financially able to do so, then I say, Go for It! He may be a man that just fantasizes about other men,, doens't mean that he's gay....
2007-05-15 12:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anastasia S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don;t know hun. He might be. What would a straight guy be doing in a gay strip club? Nah ah girl. I would dig dig dig, and if i didn't find anything, i would keep digging!
2007-05-15 12:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"me and my husband"???
You aren't married yet!
And how much time did you two actually spend together, getting to know each other?
What do you know about his family?
Did you go to marriage counseling to prepare for the big leap?
These are important questions that should have been addressed before taking a vow of life-long commitment to each other.
It sounds as if you have a lot of doubt about this guy.
Best postpone the marriage until you are crystal clear on who he is.
2007-05-15 12:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better ask now! No time for tact, just get it on the table and call the wedding off if he is.
That is pretty odd, but definitely a show stopper.
Old Guy
2007-05-15 12:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not marry him, its a big mistake. when you saw him at this club, you should have asked him why he was there. any reasons you are not sure, break it up before you make the mistake of your life. discuss this with parents and friends, see how they react to this, before you listen to the group. good luck dear
2007-05-19 08:14:00 · answer #11 · answered by smart girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋