Ex-Fiance still wearing Engagement ring after a week of breakup?

Question

My Ex-Fiance is still wearing her engagement ring after a week of breakup. She says she will wear it until I find someone else. This makes me kind of uncomfortable. But I told her she can keep it.

Is this just part of her healing process of letting me go possibly?

Little bit of background. We were to get married Feb 3rd. She postponed the wedding, and told me "Im not sure if I love you enough". I stuck with it for 3 more months. Waiting for her to "Love me enough". Asked twice after Feb if she thought about when we will get married again, she said "No" both times.

I got clinically depressed, and decided I could not take the pain and rejection anymore. Now that we're broken up, she "Hopes ill love her again someday". But Im all burnt out.

Answer 1

Your added details change the whole picture so I'll change my whole response :-)
She isn't or wasn't sure if she loved you enough.. that's a tough one to take. Could be a case of cold feet but to say such a thing really is harsh.
She may have made a genuine mistake she regrets and you may live happily ever after now she realised.. but then again she really could just not love you enough and be stringing you along. Only you can make the decision which one is correct.
It does sound like you might be better off calling it quits.. Make a clean break if you are, stay away and don't fall for the 'can we be friends' routine.. it will stop you both from healing and moving on. In regards to the ring, let it go. She may look at it as a reminder of what she let go.. As long as you make it clear to her it's over and you do not wish to be contacted by her, it won't matter whether she wears it or not.
Good luck.. sometimes just by having a break from each other you realise what you had. Be sure of what you want.

Answer 2

It's possible that she is hoping that you will reconsider and hopes that you will come back to her? You didn't say what caused everything to change? The both of you were planning a life together so you both must have cared and loved each other very much. Neither one of you can just turn all those emotions, hopes, and dreams off in one week. Relationships often have it's difficulties but if you love one another you can always work through them. That is what you do in the long haul of a marriage. You face your problems together and help one another. People say and do things out of hurt but mean the opposite of most of their expressions. It's a tough world out there and the world is good at always trying to break it down. Us women I know can be very hard to understand and sometimes we don't make sense to you guys. We put up a big front quite often where our emotions, and feelings are concerned when we are trying to protect ourselves. Women just don't plan to be with someone and throw it all away for no reason......so whatever that reason is you have to ask yourself .....Do I still love her? Can we work through this? Are we worth all that we ever came to mean to one another for us to come this far? Do I honestly want her out of my life forever? Or was this crazy and messed up and everything just got out of hand? Don't be to proud to go forward and go back to this girl and remember your frienship and build again from there. What ever was wrong if you care enough you can help each other to make it right if the love is still there. If it is don't let it slip away because what you had may never come again!! Even if it can never be for some reason you both still need to talk and walk away with understanding so those mistakes never happen in both of your futures. You owe it to the frienship that was there and to what you both once had. Do you really want to lose her ? Do you really want her to be somewhere else without you? I am asking you these questions so that you are sure. After all this was the woman you thought to share your whole life with once and possibly be the mother of your children Good luck sweetie.

Answer 3

She's not ready to move on. It's only been a week cut her some slack. If it makes you uncomfortable try not to look. At this point the meaning behind the ring is gone because there is no longer a promise of marriage. Just let her do what she needs to do to get over the relationship, give her some time.

Answer 4

well I don't see why you feel uncomfortable if you told her she could keep the ring. She can wear it whenever she wants. as long as she does not go around telling people she is still engaged to you.

wether she is iver you or not let her do what she wants, the heart will heal itself, and it's only been a week so give her time.

Answer 5

If she is keeping the ring then there isn't any problem with her wearing it - what else is she supposed to do with it? Pawn it off?

I wore my wedding rings after my divorce for a few years so that I wouldn't have to turn down as many offers for dates, etc., as I needed time to heal. After 4 years, I finally pawned off my rings.

Either way - they are hers to do with what she wants and if she wants to wear them, so be it. It takes time to get over a relationship and everyone goes through it their own way and at their own pace. Don't worry about it.

Answer 6

You shouldn't care if she wears it, you said she could keep it. Did you mean, "you can keep it but only if you put it away for _____." What else is she going to do with it?

The two of you discussed living your lives together; I'm certain that only a week later she is going to still have feelings for you. As soon as she finds herself thinking of other men, she'll take the ring off.

Answer 7

Sounds like she has a problem with the break up. She wants to wear the ring...so let her. Dont think twice about it. If she cant let go, she will wait until you have another to do it. No harm to you...just weirdness on her end.
Sandra

Answer 8

Sounds like she still loves you but needs time. I think you guys might just need a break but can work it out. Try pre-marital counseling. It is normal for her to want to wear her ring, she is mourning and isn't ready to let you go.

Answer 9

If you watch a bit of the court tv's, an engagement ring is a contract. Assuming you pay for the ring, you can ask for it back. If you gave it to her, you have to confirm that the engagement is off and inform others who should know.

Answer 10

She doesn't love you, what are you talking about!!!???? She is playing games with your head. You need to let her go and pop up out of the blue to get your ring back. Then tell her that you are over her. Get her back this is not right. She is playing games!!