Hi i am 24 have 4 kids?

Question

I do not fell so secure about myself anymore. I want to feel secure again. I want to be pretty for my husband.I know he thinks i am pretty but i dont want to be a plain jane pretty anymore.How can i boost me self esteme?

Answer 1

Start by loving who you are and what you are. You are a mother of 4 that has one of the hardest jobs in the world looking after a home with a husband and four kids. You should be proud of that to start with and there's got to be more to you than that. God! I'm glad I'm not a woman, I'd never cope!

Answer 2

Do little things for yourself IF you have time with 4 kids that is! lol You are young still. Have you done any exercises lately? That always brings up the self esteem and happiness in your mind and heart! Put a little makeup on, pamper with some perfumed lotion or scented baths. When you are shopping and you spot a sexy top or nightwear and you can afford it, buy a peice to wear and make YOU feel better. If he truly is happy with you, then it is YOUR end that needs boosting. Something in your heart/mind is bothering you and causing these doubts....find it, squash it out and work on just a bit of papering and excersize. Is there a local dance class to join? Learn a handicraft like crochet or knitting or ceramics...but it cost a lot to do ceramics. Make yourself a teapot....you will have a lot of joy over the years when you look at the fine handiwork you did! Be creative, make your home a bit cheerier, do something you can be proud of is the key here. Focus on the kids...
Sandra

Answer 3

in all seriousness...you need to stop making babies and use protection. how can you focus on making your self attractive if you have all those children to tend to? that is the first thing. next, i would suggest you and your husband plan a date night. a night where someone else is watching the kids and you and your husband spend a quiet evening together. whether it is dinner, a movie, going to the shore or just making a romantic dinner at home and spend time talking. you could also treat yourself to a manicure or a pedicure or a new hairdo. that always works. maybe treat yourself to a new pair of shoes, a dress or something sexy from victoria's secret. also do you have activities that you can do without your husband or children? time to yourself is so important. there is no reason why you cannot be fulfilled as a woman and still be a wife and mother. sometimes it takes time to find that middle ground, but i am sure you can do it. good luck!!!!

Answer 4

What youre feeling is pretty much the norm when someone marries at a young age and immediately starts a large family. You still have alot of growing to do but you probably feel that youve missed out on something and noware questioning yourself as to if youre still attractive as you once were. Youre at the age when young mothers are more attractive and desirable than their young single counterparts. Theres an aura around young mothers that cant be explained but youre probably more sexually attractive to your husband than you were when you met and that probably explains why so many children. I wouldnt worry about him wanting you or you being less attractive to him. Hes probably the proudest father/husband in the world. Chances are he may feel the same way for you. Like I said the feelings are very normal in your situation, in time all this will pass. Good luck

Answer 5

Tell this to your husband. Im sure he will help to boost your self esteem. Then definitly take a day to go shopping, get your hair and nails done, go out for a night on the town with the girls. Sometimes our physical appearance can help us feel better about ourselves on the inside. If your not working, maybe you should consider getting a part time job. Having a job and making your own money can boost your confidence and your feeling of importance. Good luck with everything.

Answer 6

Well, I don't know what your self esteem issues are.

Do you feel you're overweight? If so, walk more, cut back on calories, etc. Even if you don't lose drastic weight, you'll feel more attractive.

Do you feel you're too frumpy? Dress up for your husband, wear lingerie every now and then. Get a facial.

Do you think you're too demure? Try a new makeup technique and buy some slightly more revealing clothing...seduce him.

Are you always exhausted? Schedule a weekend away from the kids with him.

Answer 7

I too sometimes feel less than pretty until my husband assures me that I'm still hot. I'm 26 and have three kids, just becuase you have kids doesnt mean you cant be sexy....it just means you cant be slutty (atleast not around the kids :) I would say do something different to your hair, start doing little things for yourself too cause I know it's hard to manage with taking care of kids the hubby and the house. Bring up your confidence and you'll be fine. Good Luck.

Answer 8

And you put 4 children on this already crowded planet, why?

Self esteem comes from feeling confident. You wouldn't get that staying home, wiping bottoms, slopping toilet,
slinging food, cleaning house.....and feeling like a brood mare at only 24. In your place, get a job, go back to school, and if things are hanging all over everywhere, get some plastic surgery. (Wouldn't recommend implants, however.... All my friends who have had them have had nothing, repeat, noting but problems... breast life? Yup, implants? no.) Fluff up the inside as well as the outside.

Good luck, hon

Answer 9

I was in your shoes once too. I have five kids. I always started by taking sometime for me. I would buy some of my favorite body lotions, perfume, new outfits, etc.. Not go overboard just something different. When I feel good about how I look and feel, he will see the change in your attitude. Men love when you feel confident about yourself.

Answer 10

I would go get your hair done, buy some new make-up and go to victoria secret and buy something sexy...... Spend the day remaking your self...... When I feel blah I always find a way to look at myself and figure out what i want to improve