2007-05-15 04:11:59 · 34 answers · asked by Bunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Treat her with respect and don't try to suck up to her. Just be yourself. You might have the wrong idea.
2007-05-15 04:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the dynamic in your relationship with your husband and the dynamic of this friend with your husband.
First... I'm married and I'm not a huge fan of the "plutonic opposite gender friend" concept in marraige. You guys are married. You have one life together now, not separate lives. What happens to you happens to your husband and what happens to your husband happens to you.
This friend of your husband's was probably a great friend to him before you were married to him, but he married YOU not her. She needs to understand that you guys are a package deal now... that's why marraige changes everything.
My question to you is "how do you know that this girl doesn't like you?" and also "how long have you been married?" Is she catty to you, or is she just a bit distant from you because she knows your husband better from their past friendship and is more comfortable with him? If the second is true then it may be that she just hasn't known you long enough to develope a bond with you.
I would talk to your husband about it and let him know how you feel. He may be able to help you guys to become better friends so that you both can be her friend and not just him. If you don't talk to your husband about it, though, it has the potential to drive a stake between you and him.
Communication is key... let him know your concerns and let him know that you want his friends to be your friends too. Let him know it isn't a jealousy thing... its a "you want to support him and be a part of all aspects of his life" thing.
If you make an effort to make her a friend of both of you and not just his friend, your husband supports you, and this girl still decides to not like you... your husband needs to drop this chick as a friend like a hot potatoe... for the sake of his marraige and you. You are his wife. You are more important than any friend. None of his other friends share an entire life with him. Always remember that.
Hope this helps.
2007-05-15 04:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend would support your husband in his choice of a lifemate.
Your husband needs to be a man, and either cut this female out of his life, or demand that you be respected for your place in his life.
2007-05-15 04:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by magerious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is not react. Be yourself and be assured in your relationship with your husband. Jealousy and spitefullness will just cause problems in your marriage. Try to communicate how you feel openly and honestly to your husband but also try to work on your jealousy issues. Jealousy is a natural emotion, you just have to not let it control you as with any other emotion.
2007-05-15 04:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't do anything about it. Just stay in a close relationship with your husband so her opinion does not mean much.
Be nice to her if you have to see her. Show her and your husband that you are above these littel games.
2007-05-15 04:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem
first if you are married he has no real reason to see her alone
you are his friend also
Kill her with kindness invite her to your home invite her when friends are over don't let you become the enemy
In the end my husband saw his friends true colors
2007-05-15 04:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gush all over her. Seriously, pretend like she is the best person ever. Make sure you gush all over her when others are around. If she really doesn't like you she is likely wanting something to happen so she can bad mouth you. Don't give her anything that she can do this with. If you gush all over her, especially around others, if she ever badmouths you people are going to think she is a liar :)) because they would have seen you be super sweet to her all the time. Plus it will piss her off if she really doesn't like you.
2007-05-15 04:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by ~~∞§arah T∞©~~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How good of a friend is she to your husband? Be polite to her, avoid her when possible without being obvious - definately - keep an eye on her.
2007-05-15 04:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to be 'extra nice' to her. You should not give her any chance to complain. She might change. If not, then you should talk to your husband. Maybe she is having some worry that is why she is behaving so.
Good luck! Have a try!!
2007-05-15 04:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think I would worry about it too much, I would tell my husband about it though.
2007-05-15 04:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by I am woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as she doesnt do any harm in your marriage or doesnt look like she's trying to steal/seduce/tempt him, you're ok. you're just paranoid about it because she might be getting close to him and she hates you. there's a possibility she might like him, but dont be too sure about it because as you say, she's just a friend. you shouldnt do anything about it unless you can feel there's something fishy going on between them. let's hope that'll never happen.
2007-05-15 04:15:44 · answer #11 · answered by I'm his Winona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋